AS SOME OF YOU MAY KNOW. I AM THE GUARDIAN OF MY NIECE AND NEPHEW. I HAVE 2 SONS OF MY OWN(11,5). I AM A STAY AT HOME MOM AND WIFE. MY HUSBAND MAKES GREAT MONEY. WHEN IT WAS JUST US 4, MY KIDS DID NOT HURT FOR ANYTHING. THEY BEHAVED VERY WELL. NOW OUR LIFE HAS BEEN TURNED UPSIDE DOWN. I LOOK AT MY SONS AND I FEEL SORRY FOR THEM. THEY NOW HAVE TO SHARE THEIR PARENTS. TAKING CARE OF 4 KIDS IS EXPENSIVE AND MY SISTER IN LAW DOES NOT HELP US WITH ANYTHING EVEN THOUGH WE TELL HER SHE NEEDS TO HELP. I CANNOT WORK BECAUSE MY SON IS 5 AND THE SCHOOL TOLD US WE MADE TOO MUCH MONEY FOR HIM TO BE IN PRE-K. WE ARE MILITARY FAMILY AND WE CAN NOT BE DENIED PRE K CUZ OF INCOME. BUT IT WAS TOO LATE TO ENROLL. AND I HAVE MY 2 MONTH OLD NIECE. 2 KIDS IN DAY CARE SO I CAN WORK IS TOO EXPENSIVE SO I CHOOSE TO STAY HOME. I AM GOING CRAZY!!! WE BOUGHT A BIGGER HOME TO FIT EVERYONE IN SO MORTGAGE IS HIGHER AND UTILITIES ARE HIGHER. SINCE MY NIECE AND NEPHEW ARE NOT MINE HUSBAND CANNOT AD THEM TO TRICARE INSURANCE AND I CANNOT QUALIFY FOR MEDICAID BECAUSE HUSBAND MAKES TOO MUCH MONEY. IF MY SIS IN LAW HAD LOST PARENTAL RIGHTS THE KIDS WOULD QUALIFY FOR MEDICAID NO MATTER WHAT MY INCOME IS. BUT PROTECTIVE SERVICES PUT KIDS UNDER A FAMILY BASED PROGRAM SO I GET NO HELP. IF THE KIDS GET SICK, DOCTOR BILLS GET PAID FROM OUR POCKET. FORMULA IS 12-15$ A CAN AND I DO NOT QUALIFY FOR WIC. PROTECTIVE SERVICES HAS MADE IT SO EASY FOR MY SIS IN LAW BUT THEY HAVE MADE IT SO HARD FOR MY 2 SONS! WHAT DO I DO? DO I TELL PROTECTIVE SERVICES TO TAKE MY NIECE. I KNOW IT IS SELFISH FOR ME TO SAY BUT MY NEPHEW HAS BEEN WITH US FOR 16 MONTHS I DONT WANT HIM TO GO. BUT CARING FOR A BABY AND GETTING ATTACHED TO A BABY THAT WE WILL NOT KEEP IS TOUGH. IN THE LAST 2 MONTHS WE HAVE SPENT OVER 3000 ON MY NIECE. HER PARENTS CAN EVEN GET A CRIB AND PROTECTIVE SERVICES SAID THEY WOULD PROVIDE ME WITH A CRIB.I COULD NOT WAIT. WE HAVE BOUGHT EVERYTHING FOR HER AND MY KIDS ARE LEFT WITH OUT. DONT GET ME WRONG, MY SONS HAVE WHAT THEY NEED AND MOST OF ALL THEY HAVE OUR EVERLASTING LOVE. BUT HOW DO YOU TELL YOUR 11 YO SON HE CANNOT HAVE FRIENDS OVER CUZ MY 4 BR HOME IS TOO FULL. HOW DO U TELL YOUR 5 YR OLD NO ICE CREAM THIS WEEK BECASUE I HAVE ALREADY SPENT 600 FOR GROCERIES THAT WEEK. HOW DO I TELL MY 11 YO I CANNOT BUY HIM THE 200 DOLLAR IPOD HE WANTS EVEN THOUGH MY NEPHEW SECRETLY TOOK MY SONS IPOD TO SCHOOL AND IT WAS STOLEN. WHAT AM I DOING TO MY SONS. AT THIS POING I FEEL LIKE I HAVE FAILED MY SONS
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