My mom is a heavy smoker and absolutely refuses to quick or to even cut down. She smokes about 3 packs a day. I have been out of my parents house for 12 years now and each year it gets harder and harder to be around her. She is not a courtious smoker but did get better when I was PG and now that our baby is here. She will go outside and smoke when she is at our house, and if we go to hers. But she still smokes in her house, so there is nicotine on everything. When I was in the hospital, they gave me lititure on something called 3rd hand smoke. This is the left over smoke that lingers on your clothes in your hair, on the furniture, etc. Apparantly children who have mothers that smoke can turn blue if exposed to this 3rd hand smoke. Not sure if I am buying all this new found info, but my nurse told me she was skeptical until she saw it with her own eyes (a baby turned blue). ANyway, I have asked my mom to wash her hands when she comes back in from smoking, and to wear a jacket so her shirt doesn't absorb all the smoke. She "forgets" to do this constantly. In fact the only time she did respect my wishes was the very first day she saw her grandson. I have tried talking to her and she somewhat gives me an attitude and blows me off. Especially since she smoked while she was PG w/me and when I was growing up. She thinks that all these laws banning smoking in restaurants, workplace, cars with small kids is a conspiracy against smokers. Yes she is "one of those". What do you ladies think about this 3rd hand smoking thing? Do you think its a bit overboard, or do you think there is validity to it? I am so frustrated that my mom has no respect for my wishes, but on the other hand, I don't want to cause friction when it isn't warranted. Looking for opinions, especially those who have family memebers who smoke.
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