he has to prove that you are unfit. that he could take better care of the baby than you can. that he has everything that the baby needs.(home, food, clothes, bed, diapers, etc)
there are a lot of things that are considered, and your best bet is to ask a lawyer. there is leagal aid that you may be able to get so you do not have to pay the attny fees.....
this is a scary thing, I know.
does he have a record or a history of violence? drugs? alcohol? also any record of being involved with childrens services will be considered....
if you have a stable home and have a support system(family) around you, and have everything the baby needs, are taking good care of yourself, do not have a history of violence or any involvement with childrens services (any reports against you) or drugs or alcohol, you should be ok....but that doesnt mean that he will not get joint custody if he also appears to be a good parent....
seriously, get a lawyer.
it sounds ominous but you are talking about a child, and these things can get ugly....
on the flip side....is he just saying it to scare you? make you get back together with him? I guess what Im getting at is if he is the kind of guy that is full of a lot of hot air--all talk, no action...?
either way you will feel better when you get advice from a lawyer

That depends on the situation. Most judges do not sanction giving sole custody to any one parent unless there is undeniable proof of abuse, drugs, endangerment by either parent. They do what is in 'the best interest of the child' which in most states as long as each parent is providing the best possible care.
I'm currently researching this, so feel free to email me with any questions. Better yet, a lawyer would be better help for you.

Dont' know about there, but naturally mothers have a stronger pull for custody than fathers do, generally a court won't give sole custody to any one parent unless the other is TOTALLY unfit and can be prooved to be either addicted to drugs or alcohol or abusive to the child, social services don't usually step in and award sole custody until one is treating the child RIDICUL"OUSLy bad. I think you're safe. If your a fit mother, you'll be the primary carer but he'll be awarded some visitation rights, if you get a good lawyer though, they'll be able to at least tie your babies father up in a VERY long court battle, costing him ludicrous amounts of money and with any luck, he may just give up. Good luck. xox

I've been here! Please listen! The court will not give either parent sole custody unless PROVEN unfit and that's not an easy task. I would talk with an attorney but my biggest piece of advice would be do whatever it takes to find a way to work an agreement out. This is your babies father. Find a way so both of you can love this baby and be in it's life. Trust me the only person who looses out when you start a war is the CHILD! It only benefits the child to have both parents in their lives. I know it's scary, but trust me on this. Get counceling, help through the court system, whatever it takes to learn how to co-parent. Even though you no longer love each other, you both love this baby. Stay strong and focused. I know it's not easy and very scary for you right now.

It takes A LOT for a court to remove children from there mothers care....especially newborns. He would have to prove you unfit so unless you are doing drugs while pregnant and or drinking you wouldnt have anything to worry about since the baby isnt here yet. Shared custody is more likely. Just remember the issues between the 2 of you are just that....YOURS. Stay calm and level headed in making decisions. Remember to ask yourself, 'is it in my babies best interest.' Not yours, not his but the babies. Good luck!

breast feed. cant take away a baby from a nursinig mother.

I dont know if you have everything worked out by now...but in most states the father has to prove you unfit...also since he is taking intrest in having the baby before it is born is a big deal. rarely are babies taken away from their mother but at birth. I dont know for sure but custody can be awarded to him but you keep the baby for so long due to breastfeeding and what not. Best thing to do is most states have a thing for the public to look up criminal records and get as much info on this guy as possible, talk to a lawyer....most lawyers consoltations are free... and see what the chances are...also anytime he talk sto you or does something you can use against him save...everything helps...just be sure not to tell him that you are wotking hard against him...he will do the same. good luck and congats on the new addittion!!:)

I can see where the other replies are coming from, but I don't think I agree with them. There seems to be a real bias towards the mother in these situations.

I don't think that you have given enough information for an educated reply to be given.

Obviously there are some issues that are causing him to seek sole custody. I don't agree with the fathers having to lose custody to a woman just because she is the mother. I know that my opinion is not going to be widely accepted, but I think we need to look at both sides of this. Wh

I hit before I finished, sorry about that.

What I want to capture is that you have a concern that you may not get to keep your child. What are the reasons for that? Will he make a better parent than you?

I know that we are all here to support one another, but you need to be completely honest with yourself as to why he is doing this. You will also need to talk to a lawyer about this.

Good luck!

I agree with maggie also. The father should not be denied...my husband has ben denied custody of his 10 mo. old daughter and there was no reson as to why. Also she is right....Is there something that is making you so concerned? If you feel that you wil be a fit parent and be able to provide for the child properly then you should have no concerns. I do hope that all goes the way you would like though.:)