Comments like that make me want to kick my husband in the balls .... and he's done nothing wrong!

I've often said to my husband in one of my "staying at home sucks" moments... between the two of us, only one of us has had the experience of having a successful career AND staying home with the kids. And as that person, all I can say is that working in an office was a walk in the park compared to dealing with 3 kids. All the demands, the histrionics, the drama, the complaining (them), the nagging (me), it's so much harder than dealing with clients and multi million dollar budgets.

I have left him all 3 kids for a 4-5 hour stretch one day and he was going nuts. Imagine how they would feel if we Mr Mom'ed them. I can tell you one thing, your husband wouldn't make stupid-ass comments like that anymore, that's for sure.

I hear ya...my man used to say things like that until one time, I had to spend the night at my sister's house to help her with some stuff. Instead of coming with me, he decided to stay home with the babe (we only have one btw, so I can't imagine 3). When I got home over 24 hours later, my daughter was still in the pyjamas I had left her in the morning before, and the house was a disaster. I asked him why he hadn't gotten around to dusting or cleaning the bathroom...he gave me the look and I laughed my butt off. Now he always tells me the house looks good....even on the days the babe won't let me do anything lol.

yeah well....I had to have my appendix removed in April when I was 26 weeks pregnant, so i was hospitalized for 5 GLORIOUS days. I had my meals prepared to order, a maid to clean my sheets, someone to take the garbage out, I even had someone assist with my bathing....ahhhh, such bliss..its pretty pathetic that DH had to call our 15 yr old niece to help him with the kids. he did need her there for 2 nights when he went to work, but when we were on the way home from the hospital, I had this vision in my head of a sparkling clean house, children that would be excited to see mommy and who would be dressed), what an upset when the house was trashed, the kids were in pj's and the dog had barfed on the carpet that morning. DH couldn't understand why i was so pissed that nothing was done while i was gone. Such a shattered dream....maybe i'll need my gallbladder out soon......

I just do not think men will ever "get it" We are suppose to be great moms, great maids, get chefs and still want to have "adult time" every free second! WHATEVER!!!! I tell you, sometimes it makes me think it would be easier, well just as easy to be a single mother, it feels that way sometimes anyway. I am sorry he was so insensitive....I will tell you, I work all night long so I do not have to put my daughter in daycare and its hard, but I feel it is worth it. All I ever asked of DH was pick up behind them the 2 hrs he has her at night and do the dishes....RIGHT...so, I decided to hire a maid. We can not afford her all the time, but once a month she comes and gets all the deep cleaning done...it is heaven and well worth it. Oh he fussed, but I said since you wont help.....

This kind of thing continues to solidify my point that there are no decent men out there. :(

that is very rude. my husband totally understands it. he even comes home and asks if he can do anything so i usually just make him take out trash or wash just the bottles. everything else i do. he works 10 shifts and he still has the energy to help out. maybe my husband should talk to your husband.