Oh I just went through this. I had a 2nd degree episiotomy. Had sex for the first time at 6 weeks. It hurt bad. Like burned. I used lube too. It hurt more at the opening.. then once we were going...

Then I gave it a 2 day rest... tried again.. it was a little better... waited a few days.. tried again..

Well it's been the same story and now I am 11 weeks, it doesn't hurt anymore and I don't have to use lube... but now after I feel like I got kicked in the crotch. It's getting better every time but I still don't feel very sexy!!

Good luck!!!

Hhhmmm...this is tough. I had a Csection but still had pain..it was a burning sensation and I highly recommend lubrication. Also try and take a relaxing bath and make urself feel as sexy as possible, I still feel gross. I leak as well my hubby doesn't seem to mind but I usually try and keep bra or nursing tank on. Try and relax...Im about 4months out and I STILL dont enjoy it

Not surpriseing at all. After my last crash c-section, it hurt for like6 mths to have sex. use the lube, esp. if you are still pumping, because hormones make you dry. And easy does it. You can talk to dh about it, and try other ways to play before the actual penetration. One day at a time. ANd if it hurts, I say, do not force it. Wait. Until you feel more ready.

I was really nervous before doing it again as well. I didn't feel as sexy and wasn't sure how it would feel down there. We waited until 8 weeks post partum and it actually went better than I thought. It was a little sore, but not bad, and the next time we did it, it was better. Good luck.

I had a third degree laceration with my first child and I waited until 12 weeks post partum to have sex. I was still very sore down there and not at all interested in sex, between leaking breasts, sleep deprivation, etc.... If you are not ready, take it slow, wait a few more weeks. I would highly recomend lots of lube!

Hi there! I waited til 8weeks (second degree tear) and actually had no problems. We just took it very slowly.... Bless my husband, he was very patient and no expectations made it a LOT easier to relax. I hightly suggest some new pretty underwear or something you feel nice in to help you feel up to it! And lots of lube especially if you are b/f... makes you not get as wet as usual, even if you are in the mood. I would use it without trying not to first...
And another thing that helped me, was taking it slow -as in, as he went in a little deeper, we would stop, once I was ok with it (the pressure, making sure it wasn;t hurting etc) then he would go i a little further. Seemed to work great! Didn't have any problems...
First time though we were together 3times over a few hours - I strongly suggest NOT doing that or you will be very sore the following day... Just the once and see how you go, give it a days break and soon you should be just fine like usual!
It did feel a little different to me. My husband says there is no difference to him. It almost felt slightly numb (sounds stange I know!) like it should be feeling a little more sensation... If that happens, don't worry. The feeling comes back to normal over the next few weeks!! :) Enjoy.... at your own pace!! x