I know that Tyler is going through a lot right now. I know that he lost his sissy in April, and that in itself is more than any 6 year old should have to deal with. Jeff and I have been separated over a year now, and up until the last month it hadn't been a problem with Tyler. He was fine with our schedule, did well in school, there wasn't any noticable problems. Until Heather's death. Tyler hasn't ever liked school, however, when he went he never was disrespectful to his teachers or classmates. He knew better. That all changed after the accident. I have been getting calls right and left, Tyler not following directions, Tyler refusing to do his work, Tyler taking some kids lunch money, ect. Now the past couple of weeks we finally are back on track, and he hasn't been doing them things lately. Or should I say nearly as often. Then the past couple of weeks he has been asking why his dad can't spend the night here. I know the reason for this is because the past few months Jeff doesn't have Tyler on his designated week-ends. He always has plans and such, and Tyler keeps asking Jeff , "daddy when can I stay with you when I don't have school and we can do something together?" Then when Jeff and I are with Tyler at the same time Tyler is totally disrespectful to me. I have to ask him to do things multiple times, and then he will tell me no, or you can't make me, and things like that. So I will tell him, ''Look you are going to do what I am telling you to do, or you are going to lose priviledges!" So then Jeff tells me that I don't need to be that way, and he asks Tyler to please listen to your mother. SInce when do you ask your child to listen, and why would you correct me in front of him? It's only letting Tyler know that we aren't in agreement with what's going on. I have talked to Jeff about this many times, and nothing changes. As I said I know that Tyler is going through a lot we all are, but I feel that there should still be a thing called respect. Am I wrong? Is this normal behavior considering everything going on? I mean when Tyler and I are one on one we are fine. NO problems, he does what he is told, he is respectful, but when Jeff comes around Tyler does this complete 180!! I am so confused!! Does anyone have any suggestions, advice, or anything at this point. I have taken priviledges away, had him go to bed without cartoons, gone to bed earlier, ect. I am at a loss, and I don't want to punish him if it's about Heather, but I also don't want him to use her as an excuse for his behavior. Thank you.