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Adults amke the stupiest comments in front of kids, do they really think the kids can't hear or don't understand.
I man was in our business today, as my grand daughter held the door open for him he looks at her then me and says she's really fat, isn't she? I gave him one of those go to hell looks. She didn't hear it a fan was going and he spoke low.
I have decided to start being brave and saying somehting back to these adults. For one many of the adults who make comments like that need to lose a few pounds there self and I think I am just the person to make them aware of it.
My grand daughter has a puggie belly.
To top it off last weeknd while visiting her mom her other grand mother told her she looked gross in something because of her belly. All this week I have had a terrible time getting her to get her meals.
I know the DR.'s don't like the schools doing those IBM or BMI test either. I have had two different DR.'s say they didn't like it. So she will not be doing that again.
I over look kids making comments to other kids or to an adult but adults are so many times so rude.
Has anyone else had a probelm like this???
I man was in our business today, as my grand daughter held the door open for him he looks at her then me and says she's really fat, isn't she? I gave him one of those go to hell looks. She didn't hear it a fan was going and he spoke low.
I have decided to start being brave and saying somehting back to these adults. For one many of the adults who make comments like that need to lose a few pounds there self and I think I am just the person to make them aware of it.
My grand daughter has a puggie belly.
To top it off last weeknd while visiting her mom her other grand mother told her she looked gross in something because of her belly. All this week I have had a terrible time getting her to get her meals.
I know the DR.'s don't like the schools doing those IBM or BMI test either. I have had two different DR.'s say they didn't like it. So she will not be doing that again.
I over look kids making comments to other kids or to an adult but adults are so many times so rude.
Has anyone else had a probelm like this???
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Our daughter was some what built like Ri when she was her age, but is a size 4 now and excerises and eats right. (well she is 8 months pg right now) But I fiannly had to get onto people for the comments when she was little.
I mean do we walk up to over weight adults and say your fat, well no. And we teach our kids not to.
I know Ri use to be bad about telling people we know that they were fat. I had to have many talks with her. Fiannaly one day we were meeting with some family from out of town she had never meet, and they are very large people. So I told her before we got out of the car that she did not have to tell them they were fat, becasue they already know it. She seem to be very impressed that they already knew it?????????? So I exlained further on it would be like telling someone they have black hair, of course they know it etc..... Anyway that took care of that she has never said another rude comment to anyone.
But maybe we all need to take a step back and if someone makes a comment towards any child..not only our own we say something. It seems like telling them thee rude they would probably defend there self. But like going for seconds with this guy, I am sure he has something he can change about him self (other then the rudeness) to bring it up right then.Putting them in there place, nobody;'s perfect, and we all have faults, as grown ups we can do something about it as a child they are just now learning.
I had no idea what to do so I prayed about it and pop. an answer comes into my head.
take her aside next time and say "would you please not say that in front of my son" she will ask "why?"
and I will reply: I don't want him to think it's OK to say that in front of others."
so I kill 2 birds with one stone -- I shut her up and also let her know she's being offensive...in particular towards me.
sadly, we can't really control others, we can only control how respond to them. and I think the 2nd part is what our kids may notice the most.
I have had two different small women make a couple comments.
One would say oh I like your outfit Ri, when you out grow it can I have it, things like that. ANd another that has a daughter the same age as Ri commpares her shoe size and it happens almost every time we see this women??????? I have always noticed small women seem to be insecure but that is really going over board. I have decided to start speaking up and just saying "are you really that insecure that you have to compare your self to a child.
As a women I don't want to look like a child or compare myself to a child.
My daughter was also slightly puggie, but she was short, but the scale they went by she was perfect weight and all. She as an adult wears a size 4 and works out etc... But I do know from a few compents from smaller women when she was young it affected her.
I once had to tell Ri when we were meeting some family at a resturant she had never meet that she did not have to tell them they were fat that they already knew this. Because she had gotten into the habit of telling people they were fat. ANd I wanted to hide a few times. She has stopped that now about a year. I think the best way to handle adults being so rude is we just say to them what we think of the comment.
Or everyone has something about them, none of us are fawless. Is to just speak up about that.
Like when that guy made the comment about Ri being fat, I could have said well atleast she not all wrinkled, or atleast she doesn't have dirty clothes on.
WHen I have to say something back like that not being use to it, it always comes out sounding weird, but I think they still get what I was trying to say.
We stand up for our children otherwise, so I guess we need to get brave and do it with this. Weight can have such an impact on anyone with comments, let alone a child.