Totally! I am the mother of an adopted child. My sister in law was having trouble concieving. So at a family event one day someone asked her.. what about adoption? And she says (in front of my young child) Oh, I could never love a child that didn't come from me. Stupid Idiot! Well from her mouth to God's ears, she is still childless. I think some people have just lost the ability to think of anyone else but themselves.

I think you are right, I hear so many just down right rude comments about things and to
people.
Does your sister in law not love any of the kids in the family????
I know poeple that have adopted black children or half black and the comments they get.
I really am starting to believe in Aleins and they are taking over........

Words can cause a world of trouble little kids especially girls. I had someone tell my little girl that she better hold off on seconds because she didn't want to end up looking like her father. Now she constantly asks me if she looks like me or him.

AS a pre teen and teen I was tall, I am 5'7 now. People constantly made comments about it, So what did I do started sluouching. It had a big affect on me. Not so much that I was and not even so much that they said somehting, it was the way they said it. LIke something was wrong with it.
Our daughter was some what built like Ri when she was her age, but is a size 4 now and excerises and eats right. (well she is 8 months pg right now) But I fiannly had to get onto people for the comments when she was little.
I mean do we walk up to over weight adults and say your fat, well no. And we teach our kids not to.
I know Ri use to be bad about telling people we know that they were fat. I had to have many talks with her. Fiannaly one day we were meeting with some family from out of town she had never meet, and they are very large people. So I told her before we got out of the car that she did not have to tell them they were fat, becasue they already know it. She seem to be very impressed that they already knew it?????????? So I exlained further on it would be like telling someone they have black hair, of course they know it etc..... Anyway that took care of that she has never said another rude comment to anyone.
But maybe we all need to take a step back and if someone makes a comment towards any child..not only our own we say something. It seems like telling them thee rude they would probably defend there self. But like going for seconds with this guy, I am sure he has something he can change about him self (other then the rudeness) to bring it up right then.Putting them in there place, nobody;'s perfect, and we all have faults, as grown ups we can do something about it as a child they are just now learning.

everything that comes out od my sis in laws mouth is stupid. the worst one is when she says " i sure do hope we get gena back" while her other son is walking into the room and hearing her say that.....what about he...he probably wonders.

I was having a problem like this with my sil. She's well educated, very well respected and so on, but every day I'm around her, she makes comments about fat people. I'm like" are we still in high school here or what?"

I had no idea what to do so I prayed about it and pop. an answer comes into my head.

take her aside next time and say "would you please not say that in front of my son" she will ask "why?"
and I will reply: I don't want him to think it's OK to say that in front of others."

so I kill 2 birds with one stone -- I shut her up and also let her know she's being offensive...in particular towards me.

sadly, we can't really control others, we can only control how respond to them. and I think the 2nd part is what our kids may notice the most.

I HAVE A 6 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER AND SHE IS A LITTLE BIT OVER WEIGHT AND MY GRANDMOTHER POINTS IT OUT TO HER EVERY CHANCE SHE GETS. SHE TELLS HER SHES FAT THAT SHE NEEDS TO LOSE WEIGHT THAT SHE SHOULDN'T EAT SO MUCH AND ON AND ON AND NOT ONLY DOES THIS HURT MY DAUGHTER IT HURTS HER SISTER HER DAD AND ME. I HATE SEEING MY DAUGHTER FEEL LIKE THAT. SHE HAS NO SELF CONFIDENCE AT ALL. IT'S GOTTEN SO BAD SHE'S NOT ALLOWED TO SEE HER ANYMORE. I KNOW THAT IT HURTS HER AND SHE MAY NOT UNDERSTAND WHY I WON'T LET HER SEE HER GREAT GRANDDAUGTER BUT I FEEL IT'S MY RESPONSIBILITY TO TRY AND PROTECT HER FROM THIS. THIS WOMAN IS 60 YEARS OLD AND PROBABLY NEVER WEIGHED 110 LET ALONE ACTUALLY BE OVERWEIGHT SO SHE HAS NO IDEA HOW SHE MAKES MY DAUGHTER FEEL. ITS REALLY PATHETIC. IF SHE FEELS SOMETHING SHOULD BE SAID IT NEEDS TO BE SAID TO MY HUSBAND OR MYSELF WHERE THE KIDS CAN'T HEAR HER AND I THINK ANYONE WHO HAS A BRAIN WOULD NEVER SPEAK TO A CHILD LIKE THAT OR SAT SOMETING LIKE THAT WHEN A CHILD CAN HEAR THEM. I WISH PEOPLE WOULD REALIZE THAT THE EXTREMELY STUPID COMMENTS THEY MAKE HURT ESPECIALLY FOR A LITTLE KID WHO DOESN'T KNOW HOW TO DEAL WITH IT.

Yes the smaller the women the ruder she gets.
I have had two different small women make a couple comments.
One would say oh I like your outfit Ri, when you out grow it can I have it, things like that. ANd another that has a daughter the same age as Ri commpares her shoe size and it happens almost every time we see this women??????? I have always noticed small women seem to be insecure but that is really going over board. I have decided to start speaking up and just saying "are you really that insecure that you have to compare your self to a child.
As a women I don't want to look like a child or compare myself to a child.
My daughter was also slightly puggie, but she was short, but the scale they went by she was perfect weight and all. She as an adult wears a size 4 and works out etc... But I do know from a few compents from smaller women when she was young it affected her.
I once had to tell Ri when we were meeting some family at a resturant she had never meet that she did not have to tell them they were fat that they already knew this. Because she had gotten into the habit of telling people they were fat. ANd I wanted to hide a few times. She has stopped that now about a year. I think the best way to handle adults being so rude is we just say to them what we think of the comment.
Or everyone has something about them, none of us are fawless. Is to just speak up about that.
Like when that guy made the comment about Ri being fat, I could have said well atleast she not all wrinkled, or atleast she doesn't have dirty clothes on.
WHen I have to say something back like that not being use to it, it always comes out sounding weird, but I think they still get what I was trying to say.
We stand up for our children otherwise, so I guess we need to get brave and do it with this. Weight can have such an impact on anyone with comments, let alone a child.