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my 7 & 5 yr olds fight all the time..HELP

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I have a 5 yr old daughter and 7 yr old son and they fight all the time. it seems to be never ending and it does not matter where we are or who we are with. my daughter agrivates my son and he can be so mean and vicious with her. i can't get him to understand that he is 2 x's her size and could really hurt her. and it is not just physical they say the meanest things too. i try to put them in different rooms or take things away from them but as soon as they are together agian they start back up. Any advice would help. or are they just normal? i grew up an only child so i don't know what to expect from them.
junebug47
junebug47
I have a 6 yr old daughter and a 4 yr old daughter. They fight a lot! They take turns being the instigator, but it seems like they fight more than they get along. I think it is normal. A lot of it seems to stem from jealousy for my girls.
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I have an almost 8yr old and a 13 year old and for the last 3 years it has been the same way... I think they all fall into the normal range! LOL

I have yelled, screamed, threatened everything under the sun.... what i find works the best is taking away TV and making them find something to do together. I also have to be very consistant in making the child who is saying mean things stop and apologize in a sincere tone and give his brotehr a hug.
Now, when I was a kid I felt like I was being punished if my mom made my mean brotehr give me a hug LOL, but I am constantly reminding my kids that they are going to be the only friends that will be there for a lifetime and I think the nug makes them be a little nicer to each other.

My oldest does get in more trouble for his behavior since he is older, bigger, and supposed to be more mature! BUT when my 8yr old is being a big pest/trouble maker i get on him too.

Some days I think I am gonna be completely gray by bedtime, but then I remember I was the one who insisted my oldest has a sibling and I try to enjoy the chaos their fighting brings to the house! LOL
deleted_user
deleted_user
It's got to be completely normal! I have a 7 yr old daughter and a 5 yr old son. Same scenario as you, except my son annoys the daylights out of my daughter and she gets very mean and ugly to him. Sometimes my son retaliates and attacks his sister physically. I have to constantly separate the 2 of them and take things away. I try to settle it, and as soon as I walk away it starts again.
They just love eachother so much!
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