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Hello, I have 5 children my oldest does fine in church but my botoom four oh what a time. They are 8,7,5,and 4. There are times when I must take them by myself when my husband is at the firehouse. On these days it is pure craziness. I have tried humor, and threats aI ahve tried taking a church bag with stuff to keep them busy, I have tried rewarding them like crazy. But each and every time they go a bit crazy. i always feel like everyone is eyeing me wondering what was I thinking bringing them by myself. They go down to Sunday School but it only lasts like 30 minutes. I am at a loss and I feel bad when I take them because of the people around me. Don't get me wrong nobody has ever acted upset, I just get a few more hand shakes and "Peace be with you's" when that time comes.
Do other parents really pay that much attention, or do I just think everyone is looking at me? What can I do to keep the harmony EVERY Subday?
Do other parents really pay that much attention, or do I just think everyone is looking at me? What can I do to keep the harmony EVERY Subday?
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She has had a few embarrassing moments when my son would "mutter" comments, loud enough for the entire congregation and pastor to hear. As they tape the service, everyone who got the tapes also heard...
Or, when my daughter got away and ran all over the church, climbing on everyones lap or under their chair before she could be corralled.
Everyone seems very understanding when the kids misbehave, but they are told (by us) that if they are not good, they do not go. She has even gotten up and left before church was over a few times because one of them wouldn't behave. The kids really feel bad about it because they ruined things for everyone else. That may not work for you, but I hope it helps.
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Now, my 2 year old stays home with grandma because our current church doesn't have a crying room and I don't think it's fair to the other parishioners to have him running/screaming the whole time while they are trying to pray. Other times my husband comes(he's Baptist and works overnight, so he doesn't come every Sunday) and leaves with him if he gets really loud/obnoxious.
Our church does also have a children's service that we sometimes attend that is a little shorter and keeps Mary's(6) interest because the homily is said on her level. Good luck.
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at first I was taking ds to dh's church full of elderly people. you can hear a pin drop in there. it's 1.5 hrs long with no nursery. we had to give that up!
I got nothing out of it b/c I was trying to deal with ds all the time (he's 5) and I felt like people were judging me for how I dealt with him. it was awful.
then I started taking him to "my" new church and blessings --- they have a junior church. kids 4-8 sit in the main sanctuary for about 8 minutes and then have a Children's Chat and then go upstairs. it is heavenly. I have trouble keeping ds quiet for those 8 minutes though. he just has a lot of energy. I think most other parents sympathesize but every now and they you get an older couple who's forgotten what it's like to see young kids and makes a face. I just pray for them haha. mostly I think other parents just block it out completely and don't really notice.
but maybe your church would start a junior church? or maybe you could find a teen/tween to help you and sit at the other end of your pew to quasi babysit with you.
do you think it might help to tell the kids whoever is quietest the most gets a special treat after lunch? make it a contest? probably not huh?
best wishes...