Parenting Big Kids (5-8) Support Group
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I adopted my 7 year ols when she was two, and she took a long time to trust and bond with us. When she finally did bond, she became very anxious whenever I leave...even leaving a room in the house. I expected this when she was younger, but not now. Does anyone have experience with this and can give me some advice?
Thanks in advance...
Thanks in advance...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Has anything changed in routines lately?? Anything bothering her, worrying her?
I know part of my daughter's attachment started when she ended up with a UTI.. and then it got a lot worse when her dad and I divorced.
its a ritual to lie together and tell each other I love you and cuddle. She is 7.
I know she will get older and and she will leave me soon enough, especially as a teenager in search of herself. So I don't really worry about being "too" attached to my little girl
It could be a combination of a personality thing and maybe the whole adoption thing...It's, of course, hard to say. I have one daughter, who is seven, and she is the most independent kid ever...and always has been. My youngest (8 months old) is so attached to me, it's as if she wouldn't mind crawling back in the womb...(if it means some sleep for me, I'm all for it, actually)...and she has always been this way. So it may just be a phase, it may just be her personality. It could change, but I agree with krazykatt...they grow up so fast, I don't mind a little clingy-ness.
Maybe try staying close to her as much as you possibly can. Then when you need to leave the room, can you narrate for her what is going to happen? Tell her before you get up that you have to go and do such and such, and you will take about 3 minutes and then you are coming back. And then really come back, don't forget and start doing something else!
We also have a cuddle time every morning for about 30 minutes. He comes into my bed and I just hold him for that long. When he has had enough, he gets up. I make sure that unless it is impossible, that he be the one to initiate getting up. He is a very early riser so it works. you may be able to find some other time where she can control how long you are in contact, rather than you always being the one to say it's enough, or having to go someplace.