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Has anything changed in routines lately?? Anything bothering her, worrying her?
I know part of my daughter's attachment started when she ended up with a UTI.. and then it got a lot worse when her dad and I divorced.
its a ritual to lie together and tell each other I love you and cuddle. She is 7.
I know she will get older and and she will leave me soon enough, especially as a teenager in search of herself. So I don't really worry about being "too" attached to my little girl
It could be a combination of a personality thing and maybe the whole adoption thing...It's, of course, hard to say. I have one daughter, who is seven, and she is the most independent kid ever...and always has been. My youngest (8 months old) is so attached to me, it's as if she wouldn't mind crawling back in the womb...(if it means some sleep for me, I'm all for it, actually)...and she has always been this way. So it may just be a phase, it may just be her personality. It could change, but I agree with krazykatt...they grow up so fast, I don't mind a little clingy-ness.
Maybe try staying close to her as much as you possibly can. Then when you need to leave the room, can you narrate for her what is going to happen? Tell her before you get up that you have to go and do such and such, and you will take about 3 minutes and then you are coming back. And then really come back, don't forget and start doing something else!
We also have a cuddle time every morning for about 30 minutes. He comes into my bed and I just hold him for that long. When he has had enough, he gets up. I make sure that unless it is impossible, that he be the one to initiate getting up. He is a very early riser so it works. you may be able to find some other time where she can control how long you are in contact, rather than you always being the one to say it's enough, or having to go someplace.