Parenting Big Kids (5-8) Support Group
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My son is 6 yrs old in grade one. He has had his first experience with bullying. There is a boy in his class, who also lives a few doors down from us, that is a bully. He frequently pushes kids down and punches them. When my son is going out to play and I see this boy I remind him to keep his hands to himself. I have spoke to his parents twice. They said yes we'll talk to him. The behaviour has not changed. On one hand I want my son to hit him back to stand up for himself, but on the other hand I know two wrongs don't make a right. My son doesn't want to hit anyone, he has told me that it makes him sad when this happens, but he can't hit them back because he is afraid of hurting them. I don't want this to contiune. Should I be encouraging him to hit back even though he doesn't want to? I really don't want to see anyone get hurt, but it is apparent that his parents are not acting on this behaivour. I have seen him treat his younger brother the same way right in front of them....their thinking is that boys will be boys. Can anyone offer any advice please?
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Once this bully gets a taste of his own medicine and runs into a kid or two that will belt him back, I bet he either changes his tune or moves on to someone else.
Very few kids pick on those who are trained in martial arts. Black belts speak volumes.
We have always taught him that if he is hit first, he can hit back...BUT, in the schools, there is a NO HITTING Policy period. It doesn't matter who throws the first punch.
SO, we have told him to continue to use HIS WORDS to deal with bullies. And, if the bully doesn't listen, to go tell a teacher/adult.
We got a VeggieTale DVD on Bullying and watched it and talked about bullies.
It's hard to know what to do...b/c if they hit back in school, they'll get suspended or whatnot too. That's BS, but that's the rules.
It's crazy how many mean kids are out there, and parents do nothing.
If it's a kid in your neighborhood, maybe you could step in and tell the bully yourself to lay off. That might be enough...or have your husband do it.
I tell my son to also steer clear of bullies. Stay away from them.
Being weak made me an obvious candidate for bullying.
For that reason I made sure that my son had Karate lessons. Its not just about hitting the other kid back they also teach moves to block punches and get out of holds if the other kid tries to grab him.
The simple fact of knowing that he has ways to defend himself if attacked makes him more confident and a less likely target for bullying.
It really suprises me and saddens me tht bullying is occuring as early as first grade and kinder. It makes me wonder about the environment and the home life of the bully.
My son is not small and weak. Actually he is tall and strong, but he has been targeted by two boys. I think it is because they know him and they know he won't fight back. He won't go into Karate because he doesn't want to have to hit anyone and even though I tell him he doesn't have to, he still has no interest. My son is very sensitive and caring. If a child gets hurt, he is always the one stopping what he is doing and asking if the child is okay.
Lately, things have been ok. He is staying away from the boys. He plays with them at school because they don't bully him at school. At home he is to stay away from them. I feel bad for him because he really does like these boys. I am talking to him everyday about how he feels and what he should do if he is bullied again. I hope I am getting through to him!