Since you have already talked to the teacher about your concerns, I would approach it as a follow-up to what you've already talked about. Ask if you can schedule a time to talk about your daughter. Then at that time, remind the teacher what you had already talked about (I'm sure she has a lot on her mind) and ask what she has observed as far as your daughter socializing and if she has any concerns or suggestions. You could mention some of the things you observed during the performance then as well. Good luck! And maybe you're being too sensitive, maybe you're not! It's hard not to be sensitive when it comes to our kids!

Definitely talk to your daughter's teacher, but she may have talked with your child and that is all she felt comfortable with at the time. Maybe she tried to get her to say something and your daughter shied away. ??? Ask you daughter if she felt comfortable up there and if she enjoys hanging out with the boys. My daughter hung out with they boys ALL of kindergarten and some of first grade. Not until the end of first did she really bond with the girls.

it happens.

Maybe ask your daughter lightly why she was there with the boys. She may have said that she wanted it. Find out before asking the teacher - so you know what you are dealing with.

I always found teachers played favorites they still do. I am lucky now that my kids are all in Special Ed where they have 5 kids in their class and My daughter has Chorus with just about 15 people and the girls are all by height and then the boys are by height. This does change later.

I would talk to that teacher. Your daughter could just be more comfortable playing with boys. i know I was.

BTW that will help her in the career world. i work in primarily a male world. I am a computer wed admin and an Emergency medical Tech. Being able to relate to guys makes that work all that much easier.

I would definately ask the teacher what was going on!!

Its possible this was a one time thing. It is important to keep an open line of communication with the teacher. Always approach her as though the two of you are a team, working together for the betterment of your daughter. Tell her how great the show was and that your daughter is excited about next time and hopefully having a part in it, IF this is the case. It may also be that your daughter did not want to have a part in it. Talk with your daughter before you talk to the teacher to see where she stands... You dont want her to be made uncomf. As for being seated with the boys, sometimes there are other room moms who do seating, etc. It may not have even been the teacher who set that up. And again, its likely it was a one time thing. It would be great if you could be involved in helping with these kinds of events (if you are not already) it reallllly helps the kids and they feel good that there parents are there, helping. My daughtere is shy as well and my being there, albeit infrequent, has helped her alot. I sit with her at the beg of the year and we go over the calender and decide which events I will be avail for. She looks forward to that.

Thank you all for the great suggestions! It turned out that the refreshment seating was arranged by a mom. I mentioned my daughter's shyness to speak up, and not wanting to be the one who makes the first move to reach out friends as a touch-base-talk with the teacher at parent-teacher conference meeting. Things are turning out much better. I am so glad that I kept a positive attitude though I have doubt at heart. Showing the interest of working as a team is the best remedy. As a result, I got my message delivered and the teacher did not feel offended.