Talk to the principal! The next time your daughter comes home upset, march her back to school to talk with the teacher and then the principal if you are not happy with the teacher's response (or meet with the teacher and principal at the same time). I'm a school teacher, and there is no excuse for a child coming home with gum in her hair (unless of course she put it there herself, which doesn't seem likely)! Why isn't anyone trying to get to the bottom of this? Does your daughter tell you who did this to her? Is it one person? Your daughter should feel safe at school. I do doubt the bust driver sees anything - I don't know how those people drive a vehicle with all of those screaming children other than to completely tune it out. Also, there may be more to the story than you're hearing - if your daughter is acting out at school, maybe that is why she is having problems with other children. If that's the case, you could ask if there is a counselor at school that she could talk to or any resources for her as well as you to help her. Good luck!

Something you may want to bring up at school is that Bullying is against the law. the school is responsible for yourchild until she is returned to you at the end of the day,. wether she rides a bus or walks,. they need to be dealing with this and putting a stop to it, do not back down, I learned this because my daughter was being bullied and they even got her one day after school noteven on school grounds, but she was walking home and the school was informed of it and it was taken care of, Iam sorry to hear your daughter is struggling with this, I am almost betting this is why she is acting out at home, she is frustrsted and home is a safe place to vent. girls are very mean wheb it comes to picking on other girls,. please do not give up. can you maybe pick her up from school?

thanks for the advice it is helpful. yes she can tell me who it is. it is the same girl from last year that picked on her. the teacher tells us it is nothing to worry about same as the teacher last year. it just seem the school does not care. I tell her to do her best to say away from the other girl. next year she will be in a new school so hopefully it will be better.

Also, use the school counselor. They CAN be a great resource (if they're good) and help. Your daughter can tell the counselor what has transpired and two things can happen. First, the counselor can help her deal with it. But also, the counselor can pull the other one aside and meet with him/her. Also, she can get the two of them together and have a sort of mediation and see if that can help. Use the school, don't threaten the school. If AFTER you've tried to use the school to its fullest and they don't respond the way you want. That's when you start going over their heads. The superintendent and the state. Yes, if you are in a public school you can report you school to the state. There is some kind of process there that you'll have to look into.

Try letting the school help you. Good luck to you. No child should dread going to school.

I agree to get the school involved immediately.

Many schools have zero tolerance for bullying and when they know to look out for specifics, they act swiftly.

Her behavior seems like it's out of frustration. A school day can be pretty long when a child doesn't feel safe.

A lot of teachers/caregivers "don't see" what's going on because they have too many kids to deal with at one time. It's easy to miss things when you're distracted.

Sometimes, you have to force their hand and make them pay closer attention. If they know you are serious, more than likely, they will get serious themselves. They are too afraid of getting sued to let things like this slide.