Of the six fundamental feelings we have, Mad, Sad, Glad, Fear,Surprise and Guilt, each on a continuum of mild to severe, Fear helps us stay alive. Respect it. Women and some men have that uneasy feeling that something is not o.k. at night in a dark parking lot. That is healthy fear that can save your life. Fear gets to the fight or flight stage on the continuum which is in the upper end of the fear continuum and also saves lives like when you step on a snake in your bare feet, and some of us get stuck in the flight part and cannot get out of it like we could many years ago or like other people can. We are in a panic and no where to hide. WE ARE GOING TO DIE BUT NOT NEARLY SOON ENOUGH stage has struck us. A quick fix is to get angry. A person cannot experience two feelings at the same time. Many argue that we can but it is impossible. They can run together in our minds much quicker than we can identify them. Now is the time to take control. Get angry. I think we all have had that feeling. Well learn to get angry and make it real. Get so angry that your eyes bulge and you spit when you talk. When you get to that stage you might notice that the panic has gone somewhere to hide. Vent that rage in a positive way. At lest in a way that no one or nothing of value gets hurt. This takes practice but you can do it. The mind being the magnificent invention of God's, is able, in time to create new neuron pathways so that when that hint of anxiety raises it's threatening head, anger automatically takes over. Then here is what happens. You feel anger for no apparent reason and you wonder why you feel anger. You can guess what is happening. Now is the time to vent your anger again in a constructive way. Have at it fellow travelers. To investigate the cause of your panic, contact me if you wish.
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