I lost my mother and best friend in June 2007. She was told 2 yr ago after all kinds of tests and biopsies that she did NOT have pancreatic cancer. She was in pain and couldn't eat and didn't understand. She had a biopsy done again in the Friday before Mother's Day 2007--when I went to see her in the hospital on that Monday I asked her what the biopsy had shown. She said that they said she had pancreatic cancer. It had also gone into her liver.Things were quick--hospice was called. I was with her those last few days of her life in the hospital. She was so thin and looked nothing like my mother. She didn't know who I was and kept calling for her mother and father. I knew her time was near. I held her hand for most of the time those last two days and had my hand on her chest feeling those last 2 heartbeats. I was glad that she no longer had to be in that horrible pain and then I was angry. More than angry. Why wasn't this caught before hand---why didn't they keep an eye on this when they had suspected pancreatic cancer to begin with? Why did she have to be in all that pain and not be able to eat and not understanding why? She was so far advanced that she had no time for any kind of treatment. From the time she was told until the time of her passing was only 23 days. There needs to be more research done on this cancer. (I am not saying that the other cancers don't need research.) By the time it is discovered the patient doesn't have long at all. And it is devestating to the person and thier families. It is the 4th leading cancer. My mother had told me that she hoped that she would have time to get her affairs in order because she felt she wouldn't be long. She said that she had been fighting the unknown for the past two years and she was then so very tired. She fought a good fight that is for sure. My heart and prayers go out to all of you who have a loved one dealing with or has passed from this awful cancer.
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