Bear with me because I am not sure this will make sense. I grew up in a church with a really great youth group. We talked a lot about dating and sexual purity and all that stuff. One of the books I read during that time was called Why Wait, by Joah McDowell. In one section, he talked about the one-flesh bonding that God intended for Sex (based on that the two shall become one flesh passage in the Bible). He talked about how even our biology is designed to create a bond with someone with have sex with, that the contractions of orgasm are similar to the contractions of labor, which disperse a nurturing hormone. I know that sounds weird, but I have been wondering about the bond that sex is intended to create. My H and I were both virgins when we married, even though I was 26 and he was almost 30. He was the only one with whom I had shared this most intimate act. Now I have shared it with someone else. Am I doomed to have him in my head forever? I don't mean like pining for him or having feelings for him. But he is in my head; he will always be someone I slept with. Do you think this is just one of the consequences of an affair, or could their be something to that whole bonding idea, especially since I only slept with 2 people and didn't just "throw it around," as a friend of mine refers to it.
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