I appreciate all the advice and honesty from those of you who were in the fog and your insight. Being the other person in the relationship with a cheater, it is helping me figure out things. My H is denying the relationship but if you are innocent, you do not turn off your cell number and your girlfriend does not e-mail your wife! I am just trying to piece together things so I can find closure to move on. I am divorcing him but he will never admit the affair, atleast for a while, and I just want peace in my heart. To have a man who was your life for over 10 years do this to you and just totally cut you off in one day, deny the hurt they have caused is devistating. I am pretty ok with it, the realtionship has been bad for almost 2 years now but to attend counseling with your wife and continue to have a relationship, sex, say you love them and all of that while having an affair on the side, it hit me like a ton of bricks. He must see me as a stupid woman who will stick by him no matter what. I bet he figured I would fight for him but I am not.