I think all kids have to be disciplined differently cause they react differently to discipline..I have 3 kids and 1 of them has odd..i discipline all 3 differently, especially the one with odd!

if your child did not have this, then regular parenting skills and dicipline would probaley work, kids will always try to test the waters and see how far they can push us, the ywill all have those normal age attitudes, where they know more because they are younger and they think you have allready lost your mind, but no I would not put up with it, and I do not, when my 16 year old takes a attitude that is not app. he get's in trouble, he is not ODD,. he is just a teenager, when my 5 year old does something he get's in trouble, as does my 2 year old, but things work for them, they do not like getting in trouble and think twice about it, my daughter nothing works with her all the time and it is a struggel to find somethingthat does, she does not have the same conseuqences has the others,. and she does not ahve the same privileges as the others, some of it is because of age differences, but most because she hasto be parented differently, a lot of work, the thing that upsets me isthat my younger ones see her act out andthey say hey Iam going to try that, then when they get in trouble it is like that is not fair, she did not get in trouble. yes she did just differently, it is everyday take it one day at time and each situtation is different day,

I agree that all children respond differently to discipline. I put a post on last week taht the Psycahiatrist did want to diagnose my daughter with ODD because her behaviors are on the spectrum of appriate behavior althought they are on the far end. He said that is partly becasue of her intellignece. Anyway.. I think that this was great for my husband becasue he is a differne tdad now. He does not just hink that she should do it becasue he said it rather he tries to help her through things. So yes his parenting has changed since we suspected ODD. I think it was a blessing.

I wouldn't raise my son any different if he wasn't odd. There would still be the same rules, same morals, same values. The only difference is, he may actually grow from that structure instead of fighting to stay four. (he's nine)

Would I put up with all his crap...ABSOLUTELY NO!!! I have very few patients for putting up with it now let alone if he was fine.

I would raise my child differently, because I wouldn't be worried about what he would do if he's out in public. We would have more family time, instead of dealing with the ODD. I also think it makes me a stronger parent and person because I have learned to deal with people in a different way when there is a conflict.

I think we are all better moms because our children have ODD. When your child is compliant a all times, you don't have to search in the goody bag of behavior tactics.
I know that I'm a better teacher because of it. I know that when I come across a child with some of my son's symptoms, I don't allow the behaviors, but I also don't allow the child to get under my skin as much.

the biggest thing for me was to really accept that my behavior fed my son's. The more confrontational and angry I got, the more rude and defiant he got.

Zen is the way to go. (when we can)...

Totally agree with Tricah.
Have a great day

All children are different. Meaning they need to be parented different ways. Before we had a hetic sched. And this really messes with children like ours.
They need the structure. I believe.

I agree. I was just in one of my pondering moods when I posted this. There are days it brings me to tears that she has to go through this, and alot of people don't understand she doesn't mean to be a pain.

Well, having an ODD kid sure makes one have to learn to stop worrying about what other people think. They will not understand that the bottom line is that, in my experience, trying to treat an ODD kid like other kids is simply not effective and will only make things worse. When I get worn down and revert to my old ways of trying to enforce, cajole, reward, demand. . . then I see our home life fall apart again. Sure, it's exhausting to maintain the patient parent personna, to repeatedly ignore behavior that we never thought we would have to deal with, to stay calm when you want to scream (or worse) . . . but what alternative do we have? It's the only thing that works. Michelle