Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) Support Group
Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) an ongoing pattern of disobedient, hostile, and defiant behavior toward authority figures that goes beyond the bounds of normal childhood behavior. When a child cannot seem to control his anger or frustration, even over what seems to be trivial or simple to others, the child will often react in violent or negative ways to his own...
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It took me three weeks to pick up my son from grandma's home. The break was only supposed to be a week. I broke down... In all this I realized how I was running away.
**One of the things that I have learned is that my child needs to learn problem solving skills.
(how can I show him, if i am running as fast as i can?)
**2)(I am the bad at this but... I am the mother who threatens her son about one hundred times before I actually follow through. After everything is said and done, I still give in.
I told my son , that I will no longer let him abuse me anymore, if it was a stranger on the street who was kicking or yelling at me, i would call the police. The same rules apply for my son now, when he hits or kicks some else. (He has hit me, his teachers and my bf... No more!!!) I have been showing him that there are no consequences for hitting. The real world is much tougher; I need to give him the tools.
**When I ask him to do something, (like brush your teeth, we fight about it every day!) I will give him time. ( i.e. you have five minutes to brush your teeth then count down from there.) He challenges what ever I say, so I have to be very specific when I ask any thing of him.
If I try to change the behavior, there will be less and less escalations. I am committed to give him, the problem solving skills he needs.
(Today was my first day trying this. He refused to brush when I asked. He said it was too soon after breakfast. I gave him a time limit, he did not follow through. In turn I took the TV away for the rest of the day. He was angry alright! He wined, tried to take away my glass in my hand ect than we said you still have the playstation and computer. (he brushed) we caught him watching TV, we took the playstation away for the rest of the day. I MEAN WHAT I SAY. We asked him to clean the kitchen for a small reward and he did. I have praised him, and explained even though he lost some stuff he was still able to do a chore and earn his allowance. He did not allow his behavior to take him over.
(this is only the first of course, but I have faith, something has to change)
It took me three weeks to pick up my son from grandma's home. The break was only supposed to be a week. I broke down... In all this I realized how I was running away.
**One of the things that I have learned is that my child needs to learn problem solving skills.
(how can I show him, if i am running as fast as i can?)
**2)(I am the bad at this but... I am the mother who threatens her son about one hundred times before I actually follow through. After everything is said and done, I still give in.
I told my son , that I will no longer let him abuse me anymore, if it was a stranger on the street who was kicking or yelling at me, i would call the police. The same rules apply for my son now, when he hits or kicks some else. (He has hit me, his teachers and my bf... No more!!!) I have been showing him that there are no consequences for hitting. The real world is much tougher; I need to give him the tools.
**When I ask him to do something, (like brush your teeth, we fight about it every day!) I will give him time. ( i.e. you have five minutes to brush your teeth then count down from there.) He challenges what ever I say, so I have to be very specific when I ask any thing of him.
If I try to change the behavior, there will be less and less escalations. I am committed to give him, the problem solving skills he needs.
(Today was my first day trying this. He refused to brush when I asked. He said it was too soon after breakfast. I gave him a time limit, he did not follow through. In turn I took the TV away for the rest of the day. He was angry alright! He wined, tried to take away my glass in my hand ect than we said you still have the playstation and computer. (he brushed) we caught him watching TV, we took the playstation away for the rest of the day. I MEAN WHAT I SAY. We asked him to clean the kitchen for a small reward and he did. I have praised him, and explained even though he lost some stuff he was still able to do a chore and earn his allowance. He did not allow his behavior to take him over.
(this is only the first of course, but I have faith, something has to change)
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
sounds that it helped as what i read is WELL DONE ,keep at it dont feel bad if you slip back just remember to move forward again be stong