
Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) Support Group
Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) an ongoing pattern of disobedient, hostile, and defiant behavior toward authority figures that goes beyond the bounds of normal childhood behavior. When a child cannot seem to control his anger or frustration, even over what seems to be trivial or simple to others, the child will often react in violent or negative ways to his own...
We have to help the teachers understand not fight

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Hello,
I am writing this message because I have seen a lot of bashing of a teacher. The teacher was blamed for not wanting to take a kid on a field trip. Teachers have a super hard job and have over 20 kids at a time to deal with. Keep in mind how hard ODD kids can be at home and you have a 1:1 ratio. Field trips are a lot of responsibilty and she has the right to decide not to take a child who makes her feel that the group would not be taken care of. All trips require permission slips and most teachers send them home with the idea that behavior will be appropriate before and on the trip. It is common to use behavior as a reason not to be able to go even if the mom has paid. The mom needs to help the teahcer understand her child and teach some coping strategies as well. Aslo the mom could offer to go with her to help her child.
I am writing this message because I have seen a lot of bashing of a teacher. The teacher was blamed for not wanting to take a kid on a field trip. Teachers have a super hard job and have over 20 kids at a time to deal with. Keep in mind how hard ODD kids can be at home and you have a 1:1 ratio. Field trips are a lot of responsibilty and she has the right to decide not to take a child who makes her feel that the group would not be taken care of. All trips require permission slips and most teachers send them home with the idea that behavior will be appropriate before and on the trip. It is common to use behavior as a reason not to be able to go even if the mom has paid. The mom needs to help the teahcer understand her child and teach some coping strategies as well. Aslo the mom could offer to go with her to help her child.
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There are two sides to the issue.
1. Parents MUST advocate for their child. You are the person who know's your child the best. When his teacher went to school, there was no such diagnosis as ODD and if there was, it was talked about for a small part of 1 semester. This is not their fault. You must open the lines of communication BEFORE the first outburst--which may mean before the first day of school. There is a fine line between being overbearing and supporting the teacher. YOU must try to get as much help for your child as possible. Most good teachers will help you also, but you are the catalyst. If I as a teacher say "this child needs to be tested for special support", I may be ignored. If the parent makes noise, things usually get done faster.
2. We, as parents, must realize that a teacher is responsible for anywhere from 18 to 30 students at one time. We are being pulled in every direction and being told to meet every child's needs ASAP.
Thank's to Bush, somehow, we're supposed to get EVERY child reading at grade level, no matter what their previous experience is. That means, students with EVERY kind of issue is included in that.
I know that people on this site are very proactive parents, but we deal with families whose parents not only don't care about what happens in school, but supports their child in behaving badly and encourages them to do things like fight and ignore authority. I've had a 2nd grader tell me, "I don't have to listen to you, you're a woman." I've had a first grader tell me that "My dad told me I could punch someone if I want to."
Where do you go there?
My point to that, is YOU have to show your child's teacher that you want to work with them. Create a behavior plan that will work in school and at home. Reinforce school rules at home.
I know it sucks that so much is on the parent. But, as I said you know your child better than anyone.
I am so sorry to hear that so many people have had troubles with their teachers. I suppose I'm lucky, because I work in a school where I totally trust the teachers I work with to deal with a child with ODD correctly. This year alone, we have 4 kindergarten students who have been diagnosed with ED or BD. I feel that these students have already made great strides and hopefully, we can bring them the rest of the way.
I have no other advice for those with devisive teachers except to be as open with them as possible.
REMEMBER: You've had ___ years to figure out how to deal with your child's issues, this teacher is just meeting him/her in August and won't work with them again after June. YOU have to get them to get to know your special and amazing child.