yes i can deffinately relate to you as our 7 yr old son (Josh) does very simular things as well as Josh is also extremely destructive and it doesn't matter if he's being disciplined or if he's in a good mood. His mood changes like flicking a switch, and it's really weird to see this happen before our eyes. There are many times that my husband will come home from work and i'm crying cause of the abuse that i have had to endure with Josh's behavior and abusiveness! If you need to talk plz just send me a message...i'm here for you!

I understand what you must go through. I have just gone through 2 hours of verbal threats and begging from my 7 year old grandson. I am scared what I will find out about him, everyday, when I pick him up from school. I have hope for him since this is relatively new behavior. He has had other problems through the years, which had to do with bad behavior. It just has now taken a worse turn. We have yet to start the therapy.

Being a single mom myself I totally understand where you are coming from. You have to make time for yourself first thing in the morning or at night before you start dealing with the behavior of the day. This really does help keep you strong for your child.
Sometimes you will feel like you just can't take another minute. I told someone one day that I was done, I just couldn't do it anymore. The next day my son went to residential treatment and I was crying because I didn't want to leave him with strangers.
We all feel this way at times, but what is important is that you do love your child and deep down we all know that even though they make it hard.

I completley understand. I too am a single parent of 2 boys and my youngest is the one with ODD. He tortures, tortures, tortures everyone around him. I get up every morning at 4am, put his patch on (datrana) just so i can get him ready for school at 6:40am with no problems, since it takes 2-3 hours for the patch to kick in. It's like walking on eggshells around him, you never know when he will explode. anything and everything sets him off. this morning, he woke up with no problems, got dressed with no problems, everything was going real smooth, until i found a book in his bookbag, my older son saw it, said it was his book, then all hell broke loose. At least I got 5 good minutes with him this morning. the rest of the morning was just over, my older son just cant be in the same room with him. i feel sometimes that i cant be around him either, i sometimes lock myself in my room, or even find some excuse to go to work, just to get away, its neverending. all im saying is, your not alone. i havent really personally talked to anyone here but 1 person, but it seems we all go through this in one form or another, and its actually refreshing knowing that we're not alone.

I'm so sorry for your struggles. I don't want to be the obnoxious meds pusher, but it sounds like you should definitely be exploring you options. I know some people are violently opposed to meds, but to me, if they help him think before he acts, and gives him a shot at a normal life without as much angst, I'm for it.

My son is on meds and though he's no angel, I feel like I can get through to him. Meds are the answer, but they give him, and you, the chance to work on the behavior. My son was just so impulsive, he did stuff before he even thought through it. He would appoligize afterwards. Now, after a year of balancing out medication, he's directable and most of the time able to be distracted when he gets frustrated and angry. He's not perfect, we've had issues, but we found a school that will work with us and he pretty much can't get kicked out of it and the teachers are well trained.
With a combination of :
Teachers
Doctors (ped, psychia, and therapist)
Parental boundries
Medication
He's a much happier child. Isn't that what we all want for our children?

my son is 11 and they sound alike it is hard to have challenging children and other stressors of life .