Hi, I am new to this group. My son has ODD. He is 6 years old, and sometimes I swear he thinks he is grown. I'm trying to learn ways to deal with this and how to parent a little better. I just cant really deal with it anymore. I am by myself and have no family to count on for support. I am trying everything in my power to not fight with this child, but man, can he push those buttons. I'm the one who always starts the fights, or I'm just a big meanie who hates him. He doesnt like me half the time, and then when he is done with the fit and/or temper tantrum, he tells me how sorry he is for what he said and has done to me. I feel like sayong whatever, cause it will all start over again as soon as something else doesnt go your way or you feel I've done you wrong. Todays battle started off because I dont do for him what his friends mom does. She takes them out to eat all the time, buys them whatever they want, takes them wherever they want to go. But, her bills are not paid and she is always wondering what to do. I tried to explain to him that I love him, and I am providing him with a home and the things he needs. Of course that didnt sit well. I'm mean and need to get a job (that came from his friend). I cant work. I was hurt in a car accident. I wish I could go to work...that would be like taking a luxury vacation. Believe me, my son doesnt do without. We have a decent life, but I do not believe that buying them everything, taking them everywhere, and eating out all the time is good. I try to give him chores, like keep your room clean, help set the table, pick your stuff up around the house and put them away. I dont expect perfection, but at least try to make an efort to help. I just want to find ways to help us both. To try and talk to him without getting to the point of yelling at him. I truly love this little boy with all my heart and soul. I know how great he is when hes not throwing these fits, or temper tantrums. UGH!!
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