Need help with 12 year old daughter who is defiant
My daughter is 12 and fits the description of ODD. She can be the sweetest girl but if you make her mad or she doesn't get her way it's like a switch is flipped and she acts out. The last couple of weeks have been awful. When she gets in trouble I ask her to go to her room, of course she doesn't listen the 1st time. It has gotten physical recently, she doesn't think she has to respect adults. I was holding her down by her arms & she spit in my face. That was the last straw for me, I sent her to stay at my moms for 2 days. She is back home but it still continues. I have a 5 year old son & I feel like a referree when I get home from work, she is constantly picking on him. I am at the end of my rope and not quite sure what to do or where to start. She was diagnosed as ADHD a few years ago, she was on meds but I took her off of them because I didn't believe she was ADHD. She has been to a psychologist but she does not speak to anyone to let out her feeling or to explain why she is doing the things she does. She gets in trouble at school but always has an excuse as to why she did what she did. I have noticed a pattern at school, if it's a 1st or 2nd year teacher, she misbehaves or doesn't respect them. If it's a teacher that has been teaching for several years, she doesn't misbehave & the teacher has no trouble with her. I don't understand it at all!! Just looking for advice and support, not quite sure what to do.