Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) Support Group
Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) an ongoing pattern of disobedient, hostile, and defiant behavior toward authority figures that goes beyond the bounds of normal childhood behavior. When a child cannot seem to control his anger or frustration, even over what seems to be trivial or simple to others, the child will often react in violent or negative ways to his own...
I'm going through a really rough time with my daughter. She is 5 years old and is well behaved at home, she occasionally whines for things or is disobedient but for the most part shes a good kid. She is an only child and I am a single parent, she hasnt seen her father in about three years. For some reason or another when she goes to school she turns into another child, a child I have never seen with my eyes and a child that is so hard to believe is mine. She has been in Kindergarten now for approx. 3 months and has had about 5 or more office referrals. As we speak she is on a one day suspension for kicking two administrators when they tried to get her to go willingly to the office. She is disrespectful towards her teacher and other adults at school as well as the other children. This is so hard for me to talk about because I keep questioning my parenting but I continue to try new discipline with her and nothing seems to be working. This is a very serious issue and I'm so perplexed as what to do. I finally made an appt. with a child physchologist. I am very spiritual and believe in the higher power of God. I'd like to think of myself as a hard working, dedicated, young single mother. I have received my Bachelor's degree at the age of 23 reagrdless of getting pregnant directly out of high school and having her at the young age of 19. Im stuck at a very difficult time in my life and finally decided to console someone (which is you!). I have a lot of friends or co workers but no one I can confide with on this situation. I know every child is different but its so hard for me to understand why me? Why is my child so misbehaved? Shes the only child in the classroom who had to be put on a behavior contract very early into the year. I always praise her and remind her of the importance of making good choices. When it comes to ADD/ADHD or ODD or any other disorder I am very ignorant and quite frankly I would hate to have to put my child on any type of medication for that at such a young age. Well this is a basic overview of my story, any care to comment or offer any type of advice or parental recommendations? Thank you and God Bless.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Well I got aggervated with the physchologist cause he wasn't really helping me. So I went to another place. The physchologist there told me he was ADHD/ODD and OCD, and told me to punish him by locking him in his room and paddleing him. So I knew this wasn't going to work !
So I had Tre's Pedritian refer me to a developmental behavioral peditrian. The 1 st vist I learned more in 2 hours that I had the previous 2 years.
He told me Tre' had ODD worse than ADHD. And once the ODD is calmed down the ADHD meds will work.
There is no meds for ODD, just behavior modification.
Make a reward system. Set her up a chart.
We made Tre' a chart with stars once he gets 5 he gets a reward.
Then ask for more help. Doc may be able to recomend a Behavior Therapist. These people don't recomend meds right a way (except in my son's case). My Doc was shocked when the therapist told her that he wouldn't be able to change until we started meds.
Meds aren't the answer, the just allow you to DO behavior modification if your child can't focus and attend on his/her own.
Ask you school about how to start the process for assessment for school help. Your daughter may not qualify,(mine didn't), but it is another alley to look in for help.
Does your daughter have responsibilities at home? Is she expected to have manners and treat elders with respect at home? Is this the first time she's been away from you half a day/all day? There are so many things that can be contributing to her behavior, I definately would NOT put her on meds.
P.S. This is what I found for the compulsory law in Texas: Compulsory School Age
"a child who is at least six years of age, or who is younger than six years of age and has previously been enrolled in first grade, and who has not yet reached the child's 18th birthday."