Josh's school has actually asked us to homeschool him simply cause he's causing too much havic in the school and on the playground...Ray and i think that not only would he go downwards socially, but neither of us are qualified to teach him at home. Plus when he's at school that's our time away from him. I couldn't imagine being with him 24/7...i do think to a certain point that it would seriously cut down on the bullying and what not, but on the other hand, i don't totally agree with our special needs children to be singled out just because they have issues. I'm not sure what the law is in the school system where you are, but here where we live, the law is that ALL kids have the right to be educated and the school system is to uphold that policy no matter what the issue the child has. I think that we are chosing not to homeschool our son cause we need that time away from him, even though some weeks he's more at home than at school cause of the havic he causes...Good luck!

I think I would contact the principal of the school and explain the situation to him/her.

I have dealt with bullies when my daughter was younger. I went right up to the girl and said (in a low voice) if you hurt my daughter again, I won't be responsible for what I do to you. She had been charged with 13 things and she was only 12! One was for throwing a rock at a police office, a few were for abusing her parents and one was from us for her hitting our daughter. I think the dad was abusing her but not sure. She got carted off to juvie and came back a pretty decent girl.

If you are in a good school system, I would definitely talk to the principal of the school. He/She is responsible for what happens to your child until they get home, at least where I live. If you get no where in that arena, you can always give homeschool a try. I homeschooled my son in his freshman, sophmore, and junior years of high school, and my daughter in her fourth, fifth, and sixth grade years. It depends on where you live, what the laws are regarding your ability to teach your child. We did Home Life Academy. Check them out online. Remember, you can always send your child back to school. I took mine out due to ADD and ADHD reasons, not ODD reasons. They needed less stress, the ability to get up walk around, talk out loud while they were thinking, eat, take frequent breaks to slow down their minds, and they liked learning outside the house. I took them to museums, art exhibits, the zoo, and on trips. ADD and ADHD kids become so frustrated in a regular classroom environment. What do they NEED to do? They need to move, talk, think outloud, have short assignments, and nothing timed. What do they get at school and told to do at school? Stay in your seat, be quiet, stop kicking your legs and tapping your pencil, you have 15 minutes to complete this worksheet, what do you mean you forgot your pencil! I'd be frustrated too. Sometimes frustration comes out in different ways. They fight you before going to school, because they know what's coming and they know there is no way out, they fight at school, because they are angry they are there, and the teachers and other kids just don't understand who they are and what they need. If the kids are young homeschooling is less daunting, but high school is tougher. I had to brush up on my Algebra II Trig and my Chemistry. Event hough kids are homeschooled, they still need to take the ACT and the SAT to get into college. Did you know that several years ago the highest scores on both those exams were achieved by homeschooled kids? The school system will act as if you are doing the worst thing in the world. They will make you feel as if you are unqualified, and that this is going to ruin your children's futures. The bottom line is, that they really don't care about your kid. They lose their ADA( average daily attendance ) money from the state when you withdraw them from school. If you want to try homeschooling, just do it. Don't feel nervous or scared. The idea that kids will turn out socially awkward is just a myth. There are two drawbacks. One, the kids can't play on school sports teams, and they miss out on dances, proms, and homecomings. But, they still have friends from other outside school activities and the neighborhood. You can join homeschool associations and get together with those kids to have social events. It will only work if your child is willing to try it. She may love it. It is hard work. You as the parent really need to plan and prepare assignments. There are a ton of resources on the web. If you have any other questions you can message me. Sorry the post is so long. Good luck.

she has never had any problems at school with fighting other then words being exchanged, the physical stuff as just started, and she is not the instigator, the other little girl does not seem to bother anyone else, and she has never been in trouble with the law,. my daughter is very withdrawn in school, she tends to have more of the aggresivness at home, I think some of that is because she is stressed from school and frustrated and so we are her targets, it is a safe place to be mad and still be loved,. I truly believe she would be blossom if she were homeschooled and a lot of her behaviors wouldstop. we have a lot of homeschoolers in aour area and their are a lot of kids to do things with, Ithought if I could get her through the jr. high years then maybe she would be able to go back to school her high school. it is just convinsing her that she would be happier and have a lot more flexibility on learning styles, and have it set at her own pace, it something I am going to keep o nthe front burner,. our laws are pretty good about homeschooling, and there is a big support system as far as people.. thanks for the advice,,

I am homeschooling my daughter with ODD as well as her little sister. Once I get my feet wet, I'll dive in and homeschool the boys too. Like you, I got fed up with other kids picking on my daughter (she was getting hit by a boy daily and the school did very little to stop it). I'd be glad to discuss it with you if you like. I think it's going to be best for her. While learning at her own pace and getting alot of one-on-one time, she's gaining self-esteem because there isn't someone constantly knocking her down and a sense of accomplishment/importance because I let her help me teach her little sister things that she's strong at.

It can be difficult sometimes never getting any alone time, but I think of it this way: I was blessed with these precious children to nurture and raise for only eighteen short years. Someday they will go out on their own and start their own lives, and I'll have all the alone time I can handle. To keep my sanity, after they go to bed, I watch my favorite show (CSI) or play a game on my computer and just unwind for an hour or so before I crash too. It's doable. It's all in what frame of mind we choose to have.

Let me know if I can be of any help.

Hugs,
SavvysMom

DO NOT TAKE UR CHILD OUT OF SCHOOL
i have been trying for a year to get my son back into a secondary school after feeling no chice but to remove him, the teachers were worse than the pupils in his case, now no school will let him in as he was dx as adhd and odd in august this year, we recieved no help or support homeschooling and i felt i wasnt qualified enough to teach him, we have been totally let down by the system and only recently have the offered him a place at a "naughty kids" school so they can assess his needs but that was promised almost a month ago and here we are still not at school, so please think carefully before homeschooling and seek out every option first because no-one will let you know what you are entitled to once you decide to leave the system you will be conveniantly forgotten xx

DO NOT TAKE UR CHILD OUT OF SCHOOL
i have been trying for a year to get my son back into a secondary school after feeling no chice but to remove him, the teachers were worse than the pupils in his case, now no school will let him in as he was dx as adhd and odd in august this year, we recieved no help or support homeschooling and i felt i wasnt qualified enough to teach him, we have been totally let down by the system and only recently have the offered him a place at a "naughty kids" school so they can assess his needs but that was promised almost a month ago and here we are still not at school, so please think carefully before homeschooling and seek out every option first because no-one will let you know what you are entitled to once you decide to leave the system you will be conveniantly forgotten xx