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Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) is a psychiatric disorder, more specifically, an anxiety disorder. OCD is manifested in a variety of forms, but is most commonly characterized by a subject's obsessive (repetitive, distressing, intrusive) thoughts and related compulsions (tasks or rituals) which attempt to neutralize the obsessions.
"Cutting"--I'm Trying to Understand

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This is PamLyn again. I understand that several people in this community have the problem of self-injury and I've had related problems, the need to self-punish (though not compulsively, thank God, and not physically)--when it happened it was because I was angry at having suffered some kind of emotional abuse, or having been misunderstood.
When I was growing up I was very misunderstood and abused. Not by parents--by peers. Kids used to "tease" (that's what the adults said, used the word "tease"--to me, more like, "torture") me with words that really hurt, like reinforcing over and over how ugly they thought I was, how worthless, how much they wished I'd just go ahead and kill myself, etc. It really messed me up in my adult life. I don't think they knew how much it hurt.
Now that I'm 49 I realize, I should consider the source. Those kids were messed up in their own minds--and they were making me their scapegoat--only I wasn't their target. Their enemy was probably some relative or bully or someone who'd abused them and they were unloading their feelings on me. I realize now that's the source of all kinds of stupid things people all over the world do to each other--things people have done to them, because they in turn were abused by someone else and so on and so forth. As far back as history. Sometimes people unload on entire groups of people or countries, like Hitler.
Difference between the neurotics who cut you off on the freeway, or the people who abuse their kids, or Columbine murderers or Hitlers of the world and you and I is, we tend to punish ourselves for things people did to us, and they take it out on others. Maybe it's not just the self-abusers and the other "mentally ill" of planet Earth who are crazy--maybe everyone suffers from the same sickness; it just comes out in different ways.
When I was growing up I was very misunderstood and abused. Not by parents--by peers. Kids used to "tease" (that's what the adults said, used the word "tease"--to me, more like, "torture") me with words that really hurt, like reinforcing over and over how ugly they thought I was, how worthless, how much they wished I'd just go ahead and kill myself, etc. It really messed me up in my adult life. I don't think they knew how much it hurt.
Now that I'm 49 I realize, I should consider the source. Those kids were messed up in their own minds--and they were making me their scapegoat--only I wasn't their target. Their enemy was probably some relative or bully or someone who'd abused them and they were unloading their feelings on me. I realize now that's the source of all kinds of stupid things people all over the world do to each other--things people have done to them, because they in turn were abused by someone else and so on and so forth. As far back as history. Sometimes people unload on entire groups of people or countries, like Hitler.
Difference between the neurotics who cut you off on the freeway, or the people who abuse their kids, or Columbine murderers or Hitlers of the world and you and I is, we tend to punish ourselves for things people did to us, and they take it out on others. Maybe it's not just the self-abusers and the other "mentally ill" of planet Earth who are crazy--maybe everyone suffers from the same sickness; it just comes out in different ways.

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Your very inciteful!Keep up the writing its good stuff and good for you as im sure you are well aware of.

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If you have forgiveness for the ones who tortured you, you have a leg up on all of us! I think you're dead on. We all have something to deal with. I think I'd rather be ocd and a little mentally ill than cruel and full of hate. Nevertheless, one thing I've learned from all of this is that I'm capable of the best and the worst. I try not to say things like "There but for the grace of God go I," but "There go I." It's been really hard. It feels good to have someone to blame things on. But I'm the bully and I'm the bullied. I think that's what you're saying. ?
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