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me and my friend were talking and this was the coversation...
friend:y do people pick on u...is there a certain reason y?
me:ummm idk
friend:well there u dont have to tell me
me:idk y.
welll obvisouly if u look at me this fatness on my body is the reason y people make fun of me...idk if i should be mad or sad....im just comfused....i hate being this way....im ashamed.
friend:y do people pick on u...is there a certain reason y?
me:ummm idk
friend:well there u dont have to tell me
me:idk y.
welll obvisouly if u look at me this fatness on my body is the reason y people make fun of me...idk if i should be mad or sad....im just comfused....i hate being this way....im ashamed.
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If not for one reason - for another.
Mostly - it really IS because of THEM. Something is WRONG with them.
Think about it ----
WHY make fun of someone? REALLY? Does it make you smarter, more popular, prettier, funner....? No.
What it does is - make them feel better about themselves by putting someone else down.
Kind of like the person who has a bad day - and then goes home and kicks their dog.
It's stupid. It's not anyones fault.
Sometimes people get picked on - and then go out and pick on someone else. Because they are feeling bad about being picked on - they repeat the behavior. It's stupid. REALLY stupid.
But - there are people who dont go around picking on people for no reason. There are people who dont make they feel better by picking on others. There are nice people who think THOSE people are jerks.
Whats hard is - because of all the mean people - you close up and shut off to the rest of the world to protect yourself. You end up shutting out the nice / good people.
People can only have what you let them. They can make you feel bad if you LET them. I know that is WAY easier said than done.
BUT - youve got to try.
You can out wit, out smart and outlast the jerks. If you do - you will go on to find real people who are really nice.
When someone is mean to me sometimes it works to say - so all can hear ---
WHAT is going on in YOUR life thats so messed up that you have to pick on ME to feel better about yourself. YOU must be a FREAK to try to call attention to ME. YES - im fat. SO YOU can state the obvious. SO WHAT. Genius.
What are you hiding by trying to distract everyone by trying to put the attention onto ME or someone else - away from yourself. FREAK
Does it MAKE YOU FEEL better to make people feel bad? Is that what you are trying to do? Does that make a better day for you?.....
Something like that.
It doesnt always work - but you'd be surprised. People do respond to it. They get embarrassed. Or others see it and start to make fun of the bully...
One more thing....
Being in school - and being a kid - is very different than what it can be like when you grow up. There will always be jerks, true. BUT - it wont be as easy for them. And the people who are nice and good - will be in better positions.
So someone is "popular" in school..... well. That could be IT for them. The highlight of their life. It's downhill from there. Anyone who is a jerk already in Jr. High or High school (or earlier) --- has NOTHING going on for them in any other way.
Smarts? no
Talents or other ability - no.
You dont have time or need to seek out others to make fun of if you are smart, busy - and doing things yourself. Your too busy to do that. You dont CARE about hurting others. You are busy DOING things for yourself.
Life is LONG - and the time you spend in School / Jr. High / High School - is a TINY little piece of it.
There is SO MUCH MORE - and you can always go to another place if you dont like where you are. Be around other people if you dont like who you are around. Do something else if you dont like what you are doing.
It gets better.
i have to agree with denise here. you're beautiful, just as you are right now.
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I know that I'm echoing others, but let me tell you that people don't pick on others because of something that they see in you; they do it because they are unhappy with themselves. They put others down because they want to feel strong and powerful, and they don't know how to acheive that without hurting someone else.
Next time someone makes a rude comment, do your best to shrug or laugh it off. Even if it hurts, don't let them see that. Just smile and say (to yourself or them) "I'd rather be fat and kind than thin and cruel." And then walk away smiling.