Please do not be ashamed. People make fun of others due to their own lack of self esteem. Its true. People who are confident dont feel the need to hurt others.If you want to make changes in your life then do it for you!Only you!

Let me start by telling you, you are such a pretty young lady. Don't let people tell you that there is something wrong with you. There is nothing wrong with you. I have two little boys both on the autistic spectrum and let me tell you I am always nervous that people are going to make fun of them because they are different. You know what, we are all different. We all come in all shapes and sizes and are just made different. Do not be so hard on yourself. If you are unhappy with you then try and start eating healthy. I am trying too and I know it is hard but don't let anyone tell you that you are less a person. Hugs Denise

Those people who pick on you are the ones who should be ashamed of themselves and they probably are. Remember what Misty said, these people who find it necessary to put other people down are miserable and are lashing out at you because they're hurting and somehow it makes them feel better about themselves to make others feel bad. I wish I could give you confidence to laugh it off and not take it personally because when it's all said and done, what they say doesn't amount to anything. Don't give in to it. These days, when someone tries to pick on me about being fat, I make them feel uncomfortable right back and say something really sarcastic right back like "omg you are right. I AM fat. Wow, thanks SO much for pointing that out. You must feel SO good about yourself right now"

There are people who will make fun of anyone and everyone. You can be the smallest girl in class - and there are people who would still make fun of you.
If not for one reason - for another.
Mostly - it really IS because of THEM. Something is WRONG with them.
Think about it ----
WHY make fun of someone? REALLY? Does it make you smarter, more popular, prettier, funner....? No.
What it does is - make them feel better about themselves by putting someone else down.
Kind of like the person who has a bad day - and then goes home and kicks their dog.
It's stupid. It's not anyones fault.
Sometimes people get picked on - and then go out and pick on someone else. Because they are feeling bad about being picked on - they repeat the behavior. It's stupid. REALLY stupid.

But - there are people who dont go around picking on people for no reason. There are people who dont make they feel better by picking on others. There are nice people who think THOSE people are jerks.
Whats hard is - because of all the mean people - you close up and shut off to the rest of the world to protect yourself. You end up shutting out the nice / good people.

People can only have what you let them. They can make you feel bad if you LET them. I know that is WAY easier said than done.
BUT - youve got to try.
You can out wit, out smart and outlast the jerks. If you do - you will go on to find real people who are really nice.

When someone is mean to me sometimes it works to say - so all can hear ---
WHAT is going on in YOUR life thats so messed up that you have to pick on ME to feel better about yourself. YOU must be a FREAK to try to call attention to ME. YES - im fat. SO YOU can state the obvious. SO WHAT. Genius.
What are you hiding by trying to distract everyone by trying to put the attention onto ME or someone else - away from yourself. FREAK

Does it MAKE YOU FEEL better to make people feel bad? Is that what you are trying to do? Does that make a better day for you?.....

Something like that.
It doesnt always work - but you'd be surprised. People do respond to it. They get embarrassed. Or others see it and start to make fun of the bully...

One more thing....
Being in school - and being a kid - is very different than what it can be like when you grow up. There will always be jerks, true. BUT - it wont be as easy for them. And the people who are nice and good - will be in better positions.
So someone is "popular" in school..... well. That could be IT for them. The highlight of their life. It's downhill from there. Anyone who is a jerk already in Jr. High or High school (or earlier) --- has NOTHING going on for them in any other way.
Smarts? no
Talents or other ability - no.
You dont have time or need to seek out others to make fun of if you are smart, busy - and doing things yourself. Your too busy to do that. You dont CARE about hurting others. You are busy DOING things for yourself.
Life is LONG - and the time you spend in School / Jr. High / High School - is a TINY little piece of it.
There is SO MUCH MORE - and you can always go to another place if you dont like where you are. Be around other people if you dont like who you are around. Do something else if you dont like what you are doing.
It gets better.

i am so sorry this is happening to you. i remember being 13 exactly and being heavy. it was awful for me.

i have to agree with denise here. you're beautiful, just as you are right now.

Hi, I can completely relate to what you are talking about I was taunted, harrassed and teased something fierce in high school and to this day I live with the emotional scars it has left me with! I had such low self esteem that I didn't care about myself I would look in the mirror and call myself a freak over and over because I felt inside it would make it hurt less when others made fun of me....but it didn't it just pushed the pain deeper inside of me....I spent 4 years in body braces and I gained alot of weight due to emotional pain and trauma and was clinically depressed and at one point suicidal and had really bad panic attacks you can overcome this! There is nothing wrong with you The real problem lies in those who try to hurt you in order to make themselves feel more value. People can be cruel but people (especially people on here) can be a great asset to us at times We are all here for you! You have so many people here who care about you You are a beautiful person and the soone YOU realize that the closer you are to healing. Love yourself remember you can't change how others view you and in this life there will ALways be someone who finds fault with you but rise about it but saying it don't matter because I am a 10 I am worthy! Don't let others bring you don't never be ashamed of who you are because God does not make trash if you need a shoulder to lean on I am here:) Much love to you!!

From grades 7 to 9 I was picked on horribly especially by 2 people. I still haven't gotten over it. And in addition to that, my family was harder on me than they were on my brother so its no wonder I am walking around with a chip on my shoulder. Unfortunately and I am not proud of this but I have gotten revenge on some of who have picked on me and it didn't help, secondly I have been known to bully others and I still do. I never do for no reason but if I feel I have been hurt by someone, they need to look out because I have been known to make their lives hell. It's not right, but I do it anyway. And you are right, from experience I know that someone will make fun of someone else because they are insecure about themselves and it gives them a false sense of self worth to poke fun. Now I wouldn't say I make fun of anyone really, not in a sense that one would think anyway, but just put it this way, if someone gets on my bad side they are sorry.

Please don't feel ashamed. You are a beautiful young person, inside and out. You hold that head up high. You have no reason to feel ashamed. I'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

Hon, please don't be ashamed! I was big all my life, but I was ok with it, those people have small minds! u are a beautiful young lady, do not let them get u down, when they come to u and make fun, tell them " think I don't know i'm heavy! tell me something I don't know!, at least I can lose weight, but only a plastic surgeon can fix your problem! let them know what they say does not bother u, and there is a good chance they will leave u alone, I see this was a old post, I hope things are better now.
hugs

I've been overweight since I was 13, and I was picked on as well. It hurts, I know, but YOU have nothing to be ashamed of. You are a lovely young lady and it is the bullies in your life that should be ashamed of themselves.

I know that I'm echoing others, but let me tell you that people don't pick on others because of something that they see in you; they do it because they are unhappy with themselves. They put others down because they want to feel strong and powerful, and they don't know how to acheive that without hurting someone else.

Next time someone makes a rude comment, do your best to shrug or laugh it off. Even if it hurts, don't let them see that. Just smile and say (to yourself or them) "I'd rather be fat and kind than thin and cruel." And then walk away smiling.

I am so sorry that prople are doing that! People can be so mean and aweful and just monsters! They don't even take the time to be nice and get to know you. If they got to know you they would feel aweful about making fun of you. I think you are beautiful.

it's your negative out look. trust me I've been there

I know where you are coming from I was made fun of in High School and didn't have many friends but with Christ help I am moving forward and I know you are too. I went on just to prove them wrong. Just keep your head high and ignore the rude people .