I hate having to wear clothes with sizes in the double digits. I hate those other stores that only cater to the super skinny, I hate all those fashions out there that are tailored to the bone people in order to make them look like they are bigger so they can appear to be normal.. I hate the whole idea of normalicy

I AGREE WITH YOU BOTH! I HATE BEING FAT AND COMPAIRED TO NORMAL PEOPLE WITH NO MEDICAL PROBLEMS. I HATE TO BE CALLED NAMES AND TO BE STARED AT. I HATE THAT MY KIDS GETS TEASED BECAUSE THEIR MOM IS A FAT ASS.I HATE FEELING LEFT OUT BECAUSE I WONT FIT IN. I HATE MY LIFE!!!! I HATE BEING SICK. I HATE BEING TIRED. I HATE BEING SORE ALL THE TIME.THANKS FOR LETTING ME VENT.

Let me say that I did have GBS last month. But being fat is one of the worst things in the world. Most of us feel like crap about ourselves. Then other people have to point out that we are "not perfect!" WEight and self-esteem is something I have fought for 20 years. I had no medical issues, (excpet a BMI of 43) and honestly, I did this surgery for my mental health. Mind you, i am seeing a counselor to deal with food issues, but this was something I could not live with anymore. Yes, one day I will be thinner, but I still will carry the stigma.....

I think I'm going to stay away from the word "hate" for myself if that's OK and just make a list of "dislikes".
1. I dislike that I overeat
2. I dislike that Victoria's' Secrets only has Skinny Minny undies!
3. I dislike most foods which are good for me!
4. I dislike "Old Foagy Clothes"
5. I dislike being "Medically Challenged"

I DO LIKE....
1. When I have self control
2. I Love the Lane Bryant's Balconette Bra! (Subscribe to Figure Magazine to get $10 off coupons to Cacique undies!)
3. I like trying new foods
4. I like shopping at thrift stores/Ross to find cheap clothes.
5. I like that God has a purpose for me!

Hugs to all.......

Hi!I want to vent too,I just joined this group,sooooooo glad I found you.I hate BMI's sounds like some kind of anal leakege.I hate my madden name,it might as well been HOG, my whole family is FAT.we celebrate everything around food.Through my teens & 20's I'd starve & binge.I felt huge at 145,in a sz.10. 46 now, through my 30's I'd loose 10, gain 20 until now I'm in a sz. 20 and this yoyo sucks! I use to be one of those people that used humor about the fat, now I'm finding it harder to laugh. My dad died from serosis, and hadn't had a drink in 50 yrs. He weighed 380, mom died from diabetes related issues, she weighed 270, I know we all shall die, but I'd rather be hit by a truck. What do skinny people die from?

Just want to vent some more! This time not for me, recently I was at a high school football game, the marching band enters the field to proform, and there was a BIG girl on the color squad, they had given her this solo type lead, well when she began her dance the crowd burst into laughter, I wanted to go postal! I don't expect pitty, but what about good manners?

I am sick of having my husband say.. not tonite, i'm tired. I am sick of feeling like people are looking at me. I am sick of people looking at me.

I hate the word obesity. I hate that I am not a size 12 anymore. I hate that I need to shop in the Big Girl Store. I hate that the size 16 fits and the size 18 fits even better. But I guess I will have to do something about this i hate to be so negative. Hugs to you all Denise

I hate that I was rejected to go into a eating disorders inpatient program 2 years ago because I was too heavy. I lost all hope and just ate worse. Now, thank god, after a supportive talk from my physician I am loosing weight. But I'm still mad at that place for rejecting me.

I hear ya on that i am so tired of friends that weigh 118 pounds say they are sooooo big. I hate that no matter how hard i try i can not lose the weight. i want to be happy with me but need support of others

How about being called a "BIG gal"? How about: "we don't carry YOUR size here"? How about: I have not had a man look at me in years? How about only fitting in 1X or 2X; instead of 10, 12, 14, 16, 18??????
How about someone asking: "do you think you should eat that?" And my all time favorite: Skinny folks complaining about being "so fat". They should try and bend over around their big old guts (like I do) just to get shoes on. LOL I feel like a failure; because I have no self control.

I hate that I have alowed myself to become this big in the first place.

I hate that I feel sick and tired everyday because of my weight.

I hate that I have to order my clothes online becuase I have yet to find a store that has "my" size.

I hate not being able to keep up with my kids because I get way to winded.

I hate the days that I eat yummy food to feel better.

With that said, I am trying to change all of that and hope that I won't feel this way forever.

For me the hate went away from me some time ago when I think of my weight. Sadness is all there is now. Im sad that I have a hard time keeping up with my twin girls and son. Im sad that people cant see the real me because they cant see past the fat. Im sad that my husband no longer wants to touch me.Most of all Im sad that I cant find the strength to change things.

"You have such a pretty face"
"You're not THAT fat"
"All you gotta do is lose 50 pounds and you'll feel so much better. Hey what a great idea! I think I'll go do that right now.
"You look smaller when you sit down" yes someone said that to me once.
"Just put on this paper examination gown and hop on up on the examination table"...such an easy feat when your doctor practices out of the most ancient examination rooms in the North End of Boston. And what's up with the examination gowns - those flimsy paper things that don't cover anything???
"You really ought to lose weight". DUH!
"Nobody is staring at you"...so why do I feel like a misfit all the time?
"Obesity obesity obesity" Obese is a descriptive word that has such a negative connotation throughout the whole world. It must rank up there with the worst of the worst of conditions.
"Obesity Epidemic". Don't put that phase and I'm Lovin It McDonald's together.
I want a tank top that is 33 inches in length in a size 3x that will cover my belly, and a pair of jeans that taper in the legs but will still be full in the hips and belly. Is that too much to ask?
Grrrr.....