Obesity Support Group
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Since my fiance and I have started dating, I have put on 35 pounds and he has put on weight as well. He wasnt thin to begin with either. Now, he has started to make changes and buy healthy food and get rid of the soda and has asked me to join him so that we can support each other. What I resent about that is, when we first started dating, I told him that I was trying to lose weight and he didnt support me. I would buy lower fat milk(he drank whole milk!) and would not use butter substitute and drank soda constantly. When I told him my feelings about his previous responses, he said he wasnt ready to change then. Now, I feel like cheating constantly, almost like a little kid sneaking things. I feel little mad and I know I need to get over it. Bottom line is now we can make the necessary changes to get healthy, I dont know how to rewire my brain and attitude.
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I think its hard when someone tells me what to do. Even if it was my idea last week. I think obesity is such a sore subject wtih everyone. Theres no easy approach. I would tell him that youre willing to go it with him, but ask him what changed from a few months ago. Once you let the anger go, hopefully you'll be able to get accomplished what youre both working towards!
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My husband and I go through this all the time. When he is ready to lose weight and work out, I'm not. At this time, I'm seriously changing my lifestyle, but he is still eating the junk food and the soda. It's hard to get on the same page sometimes but if you really do want to join him in the effort to get healthy together, that's great and now you two can be on the same page together. I predict my husband will make his health his new year's resolution (I can't wait...it'll make things much easier for me!)
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Instead of looking at whats wrong and feeling resentful, which by the way will keep you in the food, look at whats right. He is finally onboard and doing this together is an awesome opportunity. Hey better late then never I say :)
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Me and my hubby had the same situation with a couple of things, especially smoking. You both just have to get on the same page at the same time, or you will just sabotage each other. Accept that he screwed up and instead of forgetting it or getting over it, actually forgive it. After all, it isn't an easy request to ask someone to change life habits because you are ready. In my case, my reluctance had less to do with my resentment than the fact I just didn't feel ready or capable at the time. Just took me a bit to see it. I wish you both the best of luck and hope you can give each other the support you need.
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It's always difficult to hop on the diet wagon when it's someone else's idea and not your own. What I would suggest is supporting him 100% while he's making this lifestyle change. Then, take a look at what your body is or isn't ready to do. If you are ready to do this (because we all know you have to be ready to succeed), then go ahead and join him. If you honestly dont feel that this is the right time for you, you dont have to do it. Just be supportive of him and maybe it will coax you into it. I wish you both the best.
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