I'm really sorry to hear that.
I have seen your name on the site
although not often but i come on at
erratic times myself.
How about a suggestion
Why don't you "add" friends with the
understanding that whenever they come on the site they will check for your posts and journal entries and comment on them and vice versa.I understand what you're saying though I really only have about 2 "good" friends on here that I communicate with on almost a daily basis even though my friends list is about 10
I would encourage you to keep trying and hopefully other's will get inspired to "buddy-up" with you and that might work better-but yeah unfortunately online sites can be kinda iffy and you never know who you're really dealing with and what type of person they really are.

I have had similar results. People do care, but they just get caught up in other things they are doing. I have commented more than once that topics i feel that are rather trivial get multiple responses, and others that seem to be a person genuinely in pain get very little. There are other options rather than doing it alone. There is OA look on their website overeaters anonymous. Good luck i wish you well.

Hey, I totally agree with you Ready. I have been a member of this group for a while, and used to chat it up with the gals on-line over a year ago. I had been gone for a while and recently returned. I have put out a few comments myself with no replies. But I don't get bent about this. I remember that while this IS a support group, this is an ONLINE support group. No one here owes you anything and vice versa. But it would be nice to be given the time of day.....I'll give you that.

Welcome to our world! I am not that special either, but, I do enjoy reading about the experiences of others and throwing in my two cents once in a while. lol

The way it works is, you are supposed to learn from the experience of others here, ask for advice or opinions. It is not a place to look for pity for sure and if it is personalized support...I am not sure that is possible either. Your expectations may be a little high. The chances of you being noticed and getting what you want from a particular person or group of people is a hit and miss thing because of the volume of people here. I can tell I wasn't going to bother responding...but, just to let you know there is not much on here to learn about you, you haven't bothered to tell us much more than your weight.

Maybe if you move to a smaller forum that would work for you.

Above all a positive attitude makes you more attractive for more conversation and thus support. We all move in and out of many snippits of peoples' lives here.

Hope this helps! Have a great day and you might want to re-think this permanent solution to a temporary problem. Tomorrow is another day! Take care!

I am new to this site and although this is my first post, i have read from other peoples posts and it has helped me knowing that im not alone with my troubles, i wouldnt recommend canceling my friend, give it another shot.

I personally am not asking for people to read my journal entries, i believe that just writting and letting your emotions go is a positive thing, you never know who you inspire or touch with the stories you have.

the first time I was on DS I canceled my account too. I think when you're really in need then it does feel like you're constantly being ignored... you check your account and find you haven't so much as gotten a hug in a week and it's depressing and horrible... especially if you're already depressed. All I can say is that it will eventually get better... send people friend requests instead of waiting for them to send you one.. send personal messages to offer advice.. i don't know.. that's what i did anyway. Also, i'm a part of a billion support groups so it's also the more groups you're in the more attention you get and all that jazz.

oh, i also would suggest writing more journals.. your last one says you didn't write for five months. most people are so crazy busy or desperately trying to hold their own lives together that journals and direct messages are the only things they pay attention to sometimes... if that!

I am sorry you are leaving. From what I can remember though didn't you leave here for awhile? I am willing to offer support to you if you want to stay. Hugs Denise

People are obviously caring about you since you are getting so many responses! I would suggest joining some of the smaller sub groups. In the smaller communities you find a lot more support and people take more time to talk about things. I am in a group called Obesity Family and I love it. Everyone is really nice. You should join! Just don't give up. I am pretty new here too but just don't give up.

I find this post very interesting. I, personally, have been a member of DS since March of this year. I accidentally happened on it while looking for fitness forums. I have had the most wonderful experiences here. And, some not so wonderful experiences here. Personally, I feel that you will get back what you put in. I have a handful of friends that I yuck it up with on a regular basis. That handful has changed though, since I first got on here. Some of the folks I was all gung ho about initially, I just don't "chat" with a whole lot. Too, don't forget...while this in online...you're at the mercy of other people's schedules and availability.

Sometimes, you just have to throw yourself out there and have your voice be heard. If you're not like that in the "real" world, you're likely not like that here. I have found that there are two types of people here, the active participants and the observers. Me? Very Active! I have a very strong head and opinion and i'm usually not too shy about sharing that. I have almost 90 friends though...so, if that tells you anything.

If you're looking for people to search you out and throw themselves at you because you need support...you're likely not going to find what you're looking for. I'm sorry to say...but, if you're willing to throw yourself out there a little and "mingle" you'll likely be more successful.

Hope you figure it out!!

Best of luck to you:)

I have only been on this site for three days. I have yet to receive a reply, but I realize it takes time for people to get to know and trust you. If you need something, it always helps to ask. I see that you are getting replies from many with ideas. I don't know how long you have been coming here, but I do hope that you realize that it just takes expressing your need for someone to be there for you. I have found healing just in reading and being able to share with others in need. The journal itself is healing for me. May you find what you are after, if you choose to stay, look me up. I can always use another friend! Dar

Lots of people have bothered to reply to your post and given you such good advice so why don't you give it another try? I am a member of the Obesity group but seldom visit it as I don't always find the people kind however I havent left and pop in sometimes - I've joined Morbidly Obese and OA because I feel they are smaller, kinder and more supportive groups. I find that many people want to list me as a friend but only a few bother to keep in touch with me. Keep on posting, discussing and journalling and you will find the "few" that respond and care.

Bump--I'm sorry you feel you have to leave. I don't always reply to some posts but don't get on as often as I would like. When I work full time and do alot around the house I don't always have the time. I skim though the groups and the posts and I do read them all. I sometimes do reply when I have something I think will benifit that person. I am really sorry you feel like no one care. You do get good support at DS but a person also has to ignore the post that don't appeal to you. I have quite a few friends and some I do respond to more than others but I love them all. Give it a chance. You haven't made a journal for a while so try writing one at least once a week and you will be getting some response, I'm sure. What ever you decide good luck