
Obesity Support Group
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I have been trying to lose my weight for a long time & have discovered that when I eat (especially something I enjoy) my mood becomes uplifted. I am closer to happiness bite by bite.... I think of food constantly & I know that I have to eat healthier but find myself falling into the same traps every time I start over on a new eating plan. I have a problem with moderation & hate to prevent myself from eating certain foods. I just don't know how to deal with my destructive behavior.
I feel so empty when I don't have food to satisfy me.
How do I find a way to fill up my void & why does food offer my only happiness right now?
I feel so empty when I don't have food to satisfy me.
How do I find a way to fill up my void & why does food offer my only happiness right now?
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Then there is the emotional, and I think it is a biggy. I have recently come to see that I eat rather than assert myself. In situations where I need to assert myself, say how I am feeling, I tend to protect people, keep my mouth shut, and than go and stuff myself with food.
I also think that those of us who put on weight are prone to depression and that is largely from abuse.
What am I saying? We always walk away from a fight, we have a personality that longs for attention and affection and we learn to get it by compromising ourselves in some way,thus we get abused by people with more "power".
My solution, at the moment. Use "I"statements as much as possible and talk about how I feel whenever reasonalbe. That is how I assert myself. People don't like it, and that is a big problem for us fat people, we want everyone to like us. We will do anything to be liked.
Not any more. I am what I am, take it or leave it.
Please try this as an experiement. Never start a sentence with "you", or "your". Sounds simple until you try.
And on the carbs, don't have them in the house. Like an alcoholic, we need to be abstinant, no junk in the house, as we are addicted to it. I am addicted to it.
So,no more.
Two things:
"I" statements
No junk in the house.
Please, seriously, just try this for two weeks and let me know what happens.
Now I write in my journal, play with my dogs, watch a DVD, exercise (yep, it does make me feel better), hug members on DS, review my plans and goals, dream up great vacations, and on the worst days of pain, I take a nap so I am well rested.
I am in the most pain when I am tired and I don't sleep well. So I make myself get some rest. Being rested is the best!
What really matters most is what I think about myself & also coming to the realization that you can't please everyone w/o disappointing yourself.
I love that pic,excellent! I guess you've got enough free advice now to fill a book, but I can offer one thing to you that hasnt been said. Its best to work on one addiction at a time, dont focus on too much at once. And substitution can help, Instead of junk food as a feel good device, is there something you really love to do? A hobby or something you just dont seem to have time for? Take something away and replace it with something of value.
Halloween was my favorite holiday because I got to eat as much candy as I collected & I really had a lot of candy!
I have to find the root of my problem.
Is it weird to think about food all day long?
I also have a love/hate relationship with food. Sometimes I wish all the foods that I enjoy the most did not come with the horrible side effects of weight gain, etc..