I can't make sense of my life anymore.

First of all you are not doomed to be fat! Noone is! What you need to try to do is really figure out why you are eating. Really eating. You are not hungry. For me, I overeat to fill an emptiness that's inside of me, but the emptiness can't be filled no matter how much food I shove into my mouth..I am learning this. So what void are you trying to fill? Ice, I know you and you are struggling right now, have you talked with your md? xxxx

Hi there,
Icewater I have been around that circle several times over and I can tell you - you are not doomed....the question is you need to ask yourself- what hole is the food filling? Are you hungry, angry, lonely tired or in my case I used food to run away from the anger and disappointment I had in my life....When I finally stopped running and realized I needed help - step by step I have been able to face issues and find support. You are not hopeless and this is a start to find the tools to live your life fully and follows your dreams. Start by journaling and dreaming - what do you dream of - what does a great life look like to you.....Message me anytime- there is hope!

Food to me is comfort to the extreme. Whenever I have to face something unpleasant I eat. I lost almost all of my weight a few years ago until 2 stressful things happened. One being having to face the truth that my son had a developmental problem as he is high functioning autistic. Two being backstabbed by so-called friends who I thought were my friends who I had helped out a lot. This both happened pretty much at the same time. So guess what, all of the weight I lost, came back with a vengeance because I couldn't deal with it. I also gave up spirituality in the process. Sad but true.

I was eating fairly healthy for a quite a while... things were good and I was consistently losing weight... and then I just got into the wrong frame of mind and started eating non-stop too. I don't know why I do it because I feel miserable and out of control afterwards also. I don't think you... or I... are doomed to be fat. I do think we have to make up our minds to stick to something and when we fall down we get back up. It may be difficult to stand but as long as we do, we'll be ok.

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I do understand this whole heartedly. I went to see a counselor, and it has helped. Its not the cureall, but its something that I can talk about to somone who is not judging me!

I have gone to counselors as well. I hate the way that they look at me. I feel so dumb sometimes because the obvious answers are all around me yet I do nothing to help myself change the situation that I am in.

The simple answers are all around all of us, but yet here we all are. The change needs to come from the inside. If we work on what is driving us to eat and heal that part of us, then hopefully the need to shove food in us, will subside. I just don't believe that people just gorge themselves just because they are "hungry"..think about, we are seldom hungry..really