
Obesity Support Group
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I know with all my heart that my husband loves me but does he really not care what I look like? I have gained over 30 lbs since we got married a year ago!!! He always tells me he loves me for me not what I look like. But I can't help but wonder if he is lying. I hate being this big and I have tried EVERYTHING. It is all psychological with me. I know I shouldn't eat as much as I do or the type of food I do but I can't stop myself. So am I the only wacko out there or am I sane? I know he would never leave me because of my weight but I think my weight has a lot to do with why our marriage lacks in some areas. (not just sexual)
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thats one of the bonuses about being big is I know that if someone is talking to me its b/c they like ME and not just my body like those skinny girls LOL
And Nightshade, I hear ya! He and I met online, too. It was cool because I was upfront about my size so the fact that he didn't cut and run in the preliminary stages was encouraging to me.
I have never felt this way with a man before. If I want to lose weight, that's fine with him, but he's never suggested it, and probably never would. He's dated women of all sizes and I know he likes me because I'm a little spit-fire and sassy and I make him laugh and I treat him well. He's really great. I hope it lasts and I hope there are more like him. He's a gem.
My only advice for you is to first work on yourself & then once you are able to get control (not an easy thing for me to do at this point in my life) then you can address any concerns that you have in regards to your husband.
Also I do believe that your husband is with you because of "you" It is not how much you weigh that should determine whether or not a person should be with you. My husband is also about 70 lbs heavier now & I still love him... even more so today than when we first met back in 1996..
Hugs, Allison
I found much nicer women who have weight than skinny ones
Of course, 25 years later, it's all back.
You ladies with husbands who love you, no matter what size you are, are very lucky and I envy you that acceptance. It's good to know there are men who see the person inside and love her as she is. Thanks for sharing.