People are mean because they have there own insecurities and are using you as their punching bag. Why did you get in trouble for defending yourself? Did you explain what was going on to whoever yelled at you? I'm sorry that you are going through such a tough time. Don't say you wish you didn't exist. You mean a lot to all of the people in your life. I can't imagine my boys saying that I wouldn't be able to breath without them. Your parents need you and love you and you were born out of love. They love you and that is all that matters and so do your friends. I am glad you stuck up for yourself. Don't let people talk badly to you, what makes him so special that he can talk badly about you? what a jerk!!! Hugs Denise

i explained the things he was saying she said...i dont care go sit in the hallway.D-=

Nothing we can say will make the bully stop being a bully. Their whole purpose is to get a reaction from you that makes them feel superior. When they're mean, try to remember that THEY are scared of not being accepted. THEY are the ones who need to prove how cool they are. Maybe if you looked him straight in the eye and asked him why he wants to hurt you he might think about it. If not immediately, be sure he'll think of it later. My Dad used to tell me to "kill them with kindness"...not so easy, but it does make them feel pretty low when you are nice to them. Plus, it makes you the smarter and stronger person.
Show them who's the better person. Show them who has more class and good breeding. Don't stoop to their level by calling names. Stick up for yourself with a smile of sympathy for the fools that they are.

I agree with what Denise and Lynda have said. The ones calling you names have a much bigger problem than being overweight - they are both cruel and insecure. I looked at your profile and you are at such a tough age. My son is 14 and has been picked on for being overweight. In fact, he was the one who got me and my husband to change our diet to healthy food and start exercising. It hasn't been easy, but I feel better about being in control of my life and have a lot more energy. Please remember you are not alone. We are all here for you. Keep your chin up, girl.

Forgot to say this - I told my son that bullies and jerks like the reaction they get when they pick on people. We practiced what he would say if someone said something. Example: Jerk says you're fat. My son would say: Am I? I never noticed! Thanks for pointing it out! Or jerk says: You're a fat ass (sorry for the profanity, but that's a direct quote)! My son: That's true, but I can always lose weight and stupid is forever. One more example: Jerk - Jelly Roll, Jelly Roll! My son: Yeah, so what? In other words, try not to get mad or let them see it bothers you. If you don't give them the reaction they want, they will quit eventually. Take care and let us know how everything goes!

People are really mean, I went into a grocery store and a man standing at the door says" Don't buy too much you have eatin too much already". I went home in tears and then I got angry and thought I should of punched the guy. This happened 2 years ago and it still bothers me. So, don't feel so bad we all have been there. Margaret.

I agree with everybody here. The world is filled with idiots like this kid. He had nothing to do that would make him feel good about himself so that one lonely brain cell in his head said "hey let's pick on her because I know if I do I'll make her feel bad". What a dumbass. I don't want you to feel dead on the inside because of this kind of thing. I hope you can rise above this idiot and think of all the cool things you are. I'll start you off. You are smart, cute, you express your feelings very well, and you have a firm grasp on text message abbreviations. Y can't I remember 2 shorten my msgs!

NO one knows why people are so mean. Some are just terrible. But there are some who are not mean. There are some who are nice, and normal.
Find one of those adults in your school - and then tell them about it - and about the person who disciplined you.
The one who got you in trouble - should be asked:
have YOU ever been picked on? What would you do? What would you do if i was your kid, your sister...would i be in trouble for trying to stop someone from attacking me?
Any smart adult should know that it's not going to solve any problems to ignore bad behavior and condone it (the person who picked on you) - or to ask people to be quiet and take it (what you could have done to avoid getting in trouble)...

Sometimes adults are stupid. Sometimes they cant relate.
My sister use to always yell at my niece because she was always crying - because her brother was picking on her / bothering her. My sister would yell at the one picked on - and she said because she HEARD the person crying - but she didnt SEE the brother picking on her.
She should have dealt with the real problem.
She didnt - until the dentist and doctor told her that her daughter was going to loose her teeth from grinding them in her sleep - from stress. What was the stress? Her brother picking on her - and she couldn't cry about it or she'd get in trouble....
It's got to come out one way or another. Dont let anyone tell you to ignore it or be quiet - you just have to find a better / more effective way of dealing with it.
Obviously - cursing or using language that kids get in trouble for - is not going to help you much. It will get everyones attention - which is why people do it - but not in the right way.
Write a letter to the person who got you in trouble - and the kid who made fun of you - telling them how bad it makes you feel. How Bad.
Then - if you are up for it - pass it on to a NICE adult - to pass it along to the one who got you in trouble.
It's their responsibility to try to stop the behavior the other kid was doing. They are not doing their job.

Youre being picked on because of your age - not just because of your weight. If an adult was in the same situation, and reacted like you or worse...most likely no one would say anything to them.
You SHOULD stand up for yourself.
Just - keep it cool - dont go overboard.
You are right - they were wrong.
Dont give up because others are stupid.