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hi everyone, I'm new here and I was just wondering how many people if any feel the same way I do...
I'm finding increasingly that I don't want to go outdoors because I'm so embarrassed about my size, my partner asks me to meet him at work and I won't because I don't want him to suffer the embarrassment of his work mates seeing him with me, for fear that they will make fun of him for being with such a "fattie" he always insists that they won't but I've been on the recieving end of enough verbal abuse to know how people can be at times and it's really not nice as I'm sure you all know.. I know it's me isolating myself but I can't help how i feel, I don't even like to look in a mirror these days because I hate what I see.. my partner is really lovely and supportive and tries to reassure me that he doesn't see me the way I see myself, but I can't understand how he can't...
it's so depressing and I hate that I feel like this, but I do.. I can't help it, does anyone else feel anything like i do?
I'm finding increasingly that I don't want to go outdoors because I'm so embarrassed about my size, my partner asks me to meet him at work and I won't because I don't want him to suffer the embarrassment of his work mates seeing him with me, for fear that they will make fun of him for being with such a "fattie" he always insists that they won't but I've been on the recieving end of enough verbal abuse to know how people can be at times and it's really not nice as I'm sure you all know.. I know it's me isolating myself but I can't help how i feel, I don't even like to look in a mirror these days because I hate what I see.. my partner is really lovely and supportive and tries to reassure me that he doesn't see me the way I see myself, but I can't understand how he can't...
it's so depressing and I hate that I feel like this, but I do.. I can't help it, does anyone else feel anything like i do?
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Age does help too :-) You reach a point where you think, I care about those I love, not those who are not part of my social group. Mean people btw will find a way to be mean whether you have a weight problem or something else. They are just serving their own feeling of inadequacy.
If your partner did not want to join her/him, they would not ask you to. I personally think from what you have said, that you run more of a risk of upsetting your partner by not supporting/joining them.
Good luck, I wish you the best.
Start out slow and make a list of things that you want to change this is what is helping me. Good luck and huggsssss to you:)
thankyou so much for that, I have a lot to think about and I'm so glad I posted here now
All I can say is I think your feelings are natural. People can be cruel. Try to focus on that positive energy that is coming your way. It is hard, I know, but that is what you need and deserve. Hopefully with time you will see in the mirror what your partner sees.
hlks.. maybe we should set a goal and both go to our hubby's work once and for all, after all as he told me tonight if he was embarrassed by me he wouldn't be with me, and it's the same for your husband too :)
If your husband's coworkers are thinking straight they'll realize the two of you are lucky to have each other, you should spend time with your huusband and feel good about doing it
christianlady.. thankyou for ur offer of support and ur right we can reach our goals together ;)
traceya... there are so many of us as I'm finding out, one thing I will say to you when it comes to finding a new man, if u don't mind of course and no offence meant, but for someone to truly love us for who we are we need to learn to love ourselves, plz don't be with someone who looks a certain way so that u don't feel so bad about urself.. love urself, the person who deserves to know what a special person you are is out there waiting to find you, and they will when ur ready, it happened to me, plz don't just settle for what u think u deserve, it'll only make u unhappy in the end, u deserve so much more happiness than that xx
seattleloser.. I'm so sorry u felt hurt by what happened, it will get better with time, u will reach ur goal, we all will if we stick together and support each other.
Maggie.. for the moment I've let my hubby take the reigns a bit and not let him let me back out of any dates we're intending, he won't take no for an answer for now, could it maybe worth considering trying something like that urself? it seems to be working for me slowly but surely and making him a lot happier seeing that I'm willing to at least consider going out with him xx
I actually do go swimming and wear a swimsuit, I just cover up the thighs so no-one can look at them :-)
I hate flying! I fit in the seat just fine and don't need an extender, nor do I feel my thighs crawl into anyone elses seat; but it's the look I get from the person who sits in the middle when they get on the plane. Simple solution, book early get the end seat or the window..suck it up and just be; after all if they were a "normal size", as well no-one would have the issue. (That's not ment to be mean..but have you ever notice the people who complain about others size are not exactly small themselves?)
There are ways to make you feel better about yourself when you are in public. Dress to impress, acessorize, do your hair. Not everything should be about weight :-)
Good luck