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Thats always been my attitude and I know its a bad one. Its not just regarding food, its with friendships too among other things. Say for instance if I was in sales and tried selling a friend something that declined my offer, I would end up declining the friendship. But as for food that is my attitude too and its a bad one. In order for you to stop binging on treats you have to basically stop and DEPRIVE yourself from eating those treats. If you binge on "something sinful" then you feel like shit after. If you deprive yourself and use up energy on staying away from what you are craving, it leaves you feeling like shit too.. you can't win either way. The best case scenario would be to eat a treat in moderation to prevent the binge and to prevent the deprivation, but that is almost impossible for me to do. And I know I am not the only one here. I am not the only one who has that "all or nothing" type of thinking. What do you do about it?
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yer half way there, you know you have these thaughts. so when you knotice one. like i allready had one candybar i may as well have five...recognize that thaught, reject that thaught as being distorted thinking, and replace it with a healthy thaught like ok, maybe i slipped but hey this is a new day, hr, meal and i'm gunna do better this time around. this meal around ...you get the picture. you can actually train your brain to think differently but you have to practice it just like any other behavior yer trying to change
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Hi missym, I have to laugh because I call it the A-Z and nothing inbetween mindset. I have been trying to find out where this comes from for me and I can only think we live in a get it now world. We run and rush through everything just to get a job done and move unto the next. All this causes stress and energy drain. In this mode our brain release's the adrenaline hormone which keeps us feeling anxious and in a rush. At this point our brain chemistry is off balance them we need the chemicals in comfort foods to balance our brains chemistry. What works for me is knowing this occurs and letting myself have the food I need in correct portions of cause so I don't feel deprived because if I feel deprived the stress cycle starts all over again. Also I am learning to LET GO and look at the inbetween process as a journey to learn and this seems to help too. A good principle I am living is Life is a journey not a destination. After all we learn from the inbetweens.
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Wow, can I ever relate to that "all or nothing" thinking!! It's actually a type of perfectionistic way of thinking. For me, it applies to food, but even moreso to housecleaning and also trying to learn how to do new things. My warped thinking is, "If I can't do something perfectly (or spotlessly, or whatever the case may be) the first time, then it's better to not even try at all." Ugh. I hate it. I have to constantly remind myself that it's ok to slip up and make mistakes---everyone does! It doesn't always work, but I try.
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I'm like that, too. If I open a bag of chips, I can't stop at a handful. I eat practically the whole bag. I have sworn off candy, but I have one vice and that's belgiam chocolate. It's expensive so I don't eat it practically at all. However, if I treat myself to Godiva open oysters, you can be sure I'll eat every one of those little balls of chocolate and hazelut heaven in 5 minutes or less. That's why I said I swore off candy. I'm a junk food junkie! Why can't I feel this way about string beans and broccoli? LOL
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
