I have been living with a N for 26 years now. Since N is progressive, and he has done nothing to keep it under control for the last 7 or 8 years, you can imagine how bad it has gotten. He has had multiple affairs, isolated me from friends and family, been psychologically and verbally abusive, become completely self centered to the point of not wanting to buy groceries for the family or even ask our kids how they are. His verbal abuse and rages escalated to the point that he was punching walls, threatening to burn down the house, and damaging my personal property. I have been planning my escape for years and finally found the courage to get a restraining order (even though I'm not financially ready to be on my own). The order of protection was granted and I'm now dealing with the aftermath (ie, fear of what he will do next, coping with my new found peace and aloneness, etc). The transition to my "new norm" is what I am finding to be difficult. How do I come out of such a long, abusive relationship and function normally? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
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