I don't think you're contradicting yourself. I am much like you, positive outlook and good sense of humor, but there are a couple of things in my life that I will never forget and forgive. And I think that's ok, it doesn't make me or you a bad person, just a person with strong convictions about what is acceptable and what is not.

thank you deb.i didn't think i was gonna get a reply.the last time i wrote about this topic 1 person replied.
you sound very nice.i know what you mean about hurtful thing's that have happened in our lives.i do this with everday stuff.some of the time i can get passed the big thing's.thank you for your imput,i really appreciate even one voice you can relate.

"The bottom line is that if we're bothered by something, whether our being bothered is justified or not, we're attracting negatively; that's the way of it! It may be only a mild annoyance over clothes hung backwards. Or it may be as terrible as the fear of abuse. But regardless of the emotional intensity, that negative attention to "what is" will always cause even greater problems, because that's the script we're writing."

Lynn Grabhorn




Love is forgiving

Love is for giving :)

i get that about hanging on to hurtful thing's is very negative.
i think my issue is if i hurt someone's feeling's and not meaning to at all, unless i'm defending someone
i'm alot like my brother he can let this sort of stuff eat away at him,like i do.
i guess that would be overly sensitive.you can't really change the person are with certain thing's.

I understand totally what you are going through I am there all the time. I'm trying to keep my head above the water but it's getting harder and herder to do

There are a lot of quotes that helped me with forgiveness issues in Larry's post...last night I happened to pick up the bible too, in Mathew...we are to forgive 77X7...express your feelings to the person who has hurt you...then you will have release....he or she will be able to communicate their true feelings....I find I am way to sensitive and in reality take offense when none was intended!

oh...post 52 by melody beattie in LDNlarry "snips" is a good one (it is a lot of reading

i really do know i need to stop holding on to the negitive thought's.i do pray alot and i will forgive & get passed this.i guess it just takes me a while. it's nice to know some other's understand.thank you