Bless your heart! He can't even understand,
he has no clue, tell him the crap is trying to kick my butt, I need rest to fight it again!
Tell your hubby you may need a little help.
Good luck hope things get better for you!
Happy Thanksgiving!
Val

their is some great info on the web about fatigue and ms. there are also articles to the family. maby you can goggle ms and fatigue and copy something, then lay it around so he can see it. I know how your feeling hang in there...
hugs
april

I WOULD GET HIM THE BOOK MS 4 DUMMIES 4 CHRISTMAS AND AS FAR AS WHAT HE SAID I WOULD HAVE SADI 2 HIM, YES IT IS NOT GOING 2 GET DONE UNLESS U CAN BE UNDRSTANDING AND HELP ME OUT UNTIL I FEEL BETTER.

tell him to do it for the family then :) didn't work in my house, but it's worth a shot

We with MS have the luxury of a "cognitive crutch". presoak the laundry in the bathtub until it's ready to be put in the machine. Sarcasm is a form of repression, I'd rather we find "creative" ways to vent

I would have gone with your first idea and told him to f&^% off...but that's just me. And I'm divorced so what do I know! :-) You are doing the right thing sharing it here with people who can understand.

1- Don't cry about it.
2- Don't do any damn laundry.
3- Go back to bed and enjoy!

Since I have a baseball bat next to my bed and a TERRIBLE temper problem, I know what my first reaction would be...how about hurling laundry detergent at him and writing out "how to do the damn laundry" in infantile little steps. When a spouse has a disease such as this, the other has to stop being a baby and step up if he wants clean undies...laundry won't kill him or castrate him. I hope it gets better and don't feel bad about calling him out when he's being insensitive and juvenile. Sorry....hearing husbands or wives do this to us MSers really infuriates me! XOXOXOXOXO

I'm sorry you have such an insensitive husband! How rude!!! I would have said exactly how you were feeling, that you could barely get out of bed, and the laundry will be there tomorrow or whenever you are up to doing it. Good luck and Happy Thanksgiving.

Hire some one to come in once a week and clean. Put it on his tab.

I only do half a load at a time, now, and I hang it on a clothes rack inside because I cant be bothered hanging it up outside.
If hubby is disinclined to help, could you ask a friend, relative or neighbour to pop in for a few minutes and give you a hand? Having company would cheer you up as well.

I have to admit my partners fantastic. He's worked out that if he doesn't do it - it just deosn't get done!!!
Personally I'd have gone with your first instinct and told him to fk rite off! If he wants laundry doin to go do it himself! That would go for dinner, vaccumin, dustin and anything else you usually do.
I too work nights but thats no excuse to bein a prat!(no offence intended)
Or you could try the infantile laundry steps :0)
Either way I WOULD NEVER CRY OVER IT!!!
Hope it gets better for you x

I'm sorry he talked to you like that. It can be hard for men, they can feel so stressed and out of control. This disease is something they can't fix.
My husband used to say things like, "Can you at least?...He finally figured out after I had a bad spell from over doing it and he seen that my legs were flopping and I couldn't get out og bed for days. Now he grounds me and even if I want to do things he wont let me.

if it were my husband i would say are your legs broke no then you do it.
but i'm a little bit b*tchy

Hi, thanks everyone for your support and good advice. He did apologize and said he didn't mean anything by it just he meant it as a bad day again. I would not mind if the washer and dryer were in my apt but I have to go down to the basement of the apt into the laundry room and wait till the laundry is done. If I had the machines at home it would not be so difficult. I hope you understand, thanks for everything, everyone, Lots of HUGS Margaret. P.S. I am still angry though.