It is hard to start this thread.... basically I have zero relationship intimate or otherwise with my hubby. At this moment and time I don't want or miss it, but obviously he does. I guess I am feeling sorry for myself but I do not know how I can get through this one. It makes me feel really sad. I was advised by someone once to just carry on as it's ultimately not his fault, even this I cannot do now. A few months ago I felt really sexy for a short time, it disappeared as quickly as it appeared! I cannot explain this to him, it sounds pathetic. Loss of sensation is virtually permanent which doesn't help at all. I am avoiding closeness in bed as I do not want it to lead to anything else. The whole thing is now a vicious circle, he feels that talking too much about it makes it almost dirty because we end up having to discuss the very rudiments of sex. He basically isn't happy at all, and instead of feeling sympathetic for him now, I feel angry and mis understood myself... and so it goes round and round. We have been married for 25 years this year and I was diagnosed 14 years ago..MS is very rarely talked about, he doesn't seek any information to my knowledge and I can't get him to share his thoughts and feelings about it with me let alone anyone else. If I could get him to walk a day in my shoes, everything would be sorted! but as this is impossible, I am at a loss.
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