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Hello everyone:
I was dx 2 years ago. It has been a very long and winding road to get to the point I am now.
After being dx I was overwhelmed. I had to resign my job because I could not perform my job duties.
I spent the next two years consumed with self pity. I went thru the 5 stages of grief,
1.Denial
2.Anger
3.Bargaining
4.Depression
5.Acceptance
Needless to say that it has been a journey of self awareness and self discovery. I was in DENIAL for about the first three months, then went to ANGER for all that I thought I had lost or would be loosing.
Then I went thru the BARGAINING stage by dealing with it by making a deal with the Lord that if he would make me better I would become a better person etc.
I then entered the 4th stage of grief...DEPRESSION. This stage was the longest and hardest stage for me. I thought my life was over and that I had no future ahead of me, a future that looked dim.
With the last month or so, I have finally entered the final and 5th stage of grief, ACCEPTANCE.
I am determined to be positive in my life, and it has already worked. I have always believed that negative thoughts bring negative thoughts and actions and keeping a positive attitude bring positive actions and reactions.
Well one week ago I called one of my previous places of employment and told them that I would like to become a volunteer a few hours a week and give back to the community.
They immediatley took me up on my offer and are actually talking about putting me back to work part time.
I look at this opportunity to become a positive role model for the handicapped; that you can still be useful even if it is but a few hours a week that you can be of service to any organization of your choosing.
I wanted to share with you my long journey and hope that my experience will inspire others (if able) to get out and give something of your self back to your community.
Life is GOOD again and it all because of thinking positive.
Peace to all....
Lea
I was dx 2 years ago. It has been a very long and winding road to get to the point I am now.
After being dx I was overwhelmed. I had to resign my job because I could not perform my job duties.
I spent the next two years consumed with self pity. I went thru the 5 stages of grief,
1.Denial
2.Anger
3.Bargaining
4.Depression
5.Acceptance
Needless to say that it has been a journey of self awareness and self discovery. I was in DENIAL for about the first three months, then went to ANGER for all that I thought I had lost or would be loosing.
Then I went thru the BARGAINING stage by dealing with it by making a deal with the Lord that if he would make me better I would become a better person etc.
I then entered the 4th stage of grief...DEPRESSION. This stage was the longest and hardest stage for me. I thought my life was over and that I had no future ahead of me, a future that looked dim.
With the last month or so, I have finally entered the final and 5th stage of grief, ACCEPTANCE.
I am determined to be positive in my life, and it has already worked. I have always believed that negative thoughts bring negative thoughts and actions and keeping a positive attitude bring positive actions and reactions.
Well one week ago I called one of my previous places of employment and told them that I would like to become a volunteer a few hours a week and give back to the community.
They immediatley took me up on my offer and are actually talking about putting me back to work part time.
I look at this opportunity to become a positive role model for the handicapped; that you can still be useful even if it is but a few hours a week that you can be of service to any organization of your choosing.
I wanted to share with you my long journey and hope that my experience will inspire others (if able) to get out and give something of your self back to your community.
Life is GOOD again and it all because of thinking positive.
Peace to all....
Lea
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A friend sent this to me..As far as I can see, grief will never truly end.It may become softer overtime, more gentleand some days will feel sharp.But grief will last as long as Love does - ForeverIt's simply the way the absence of your loved onemanifests in your heart. A deep longing accompaniedby the deepest Love some days. The heavy fog mayreturn and the next day, it may recede.Once again, it's...
I have been dealing with MS for over 17 years now and have gone through all of the stages you mentioned. I no longer go through stage 1 but I have however gone through stages 2-5 a few times on this MS journey.
It's a neverending circle for me "Circle of Life"
Good luck with your part time job.
Cheers, Sharon
I know we all probably go through these emotions. You should be happy that you made it to the acceptance stage. I'm still working on it!
Thanks for sharing, and all the best with your job.
I still fall into self pity at times but i don't seem to let myself stay there long anymore. most days I feel like I stay pretty positive. I hope you do too.
april
It seems we attract what we project in our lives.
There's a saying:
'If you want sympathy, look between shit and syphilis in the dictionary.'
I really like that saying. I've found pity parties are of no use, and can't stand it when people take a helpless attitude. Understand, I realize folks may go through a tuff patch. That's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about the folks that seem to get stuck at one point, and almost seem to enjoy the way others react/attention given to the problems they face. I'm talking about the ones who will find any reason there is to not improve things.
I realize some folks have certain things MS has taken away from them, and that's not what I'm talking about either. What I'm talking about is the mental outlook, the desire to - if I can't do it one way, I'll find another way to get it done.
For me, negative is equal to I've given up, no need to fight. Well, I'm a spunky, fat 'n sassy type of person. Plan not to give up until I'm belly up! I don't expect my fight to be easy. Why me, or poor me, won't do anything to make me feel bettier. What I've seen is, not matter the disease, anyone who takes an attitude like that ends up isolated and alone by their own choice.