I am so sorry this is not MS related, but I must vent and I really need support. First a little background info- my husband is 14 yrs older than me. We were both divorced when we met and started dating. I have one son from my previous marriage that my husband has adopted. My husband had 2 children from his previous marriage. His children are now 18 and 13. Well, on Saturday night my husbands x-wife died. It was very sudden and she had no health problems (that she knew of). Her heart burst and she dropped down dead in front of my 13 yr old step-daughter. This has all been traumatic and tough for the kids. His x-wife had made my life and my husbands life a living hell for the past 9 years, but I would not wish death on anyone. My step-son (who is 18) works full time and is going to live with his fiance and her dad. We have offered to help him financially when he needed it (not forever but until he is 19 and they are married). So, my 13 yr old step-daughter should be living with us right? Well, first her step-dad (they had only been married 5 months but lived together for 5 yrs) thinks that my step-daughter should continue to live with him. My husband told him no of course. But now his x-wife's parents want my step-daughter to live with them. My husband was going to let her live there until school finished so she wouldn't have to change schools, but now he is not. They are trying to "hide" my step-daughter from him. He went to their house to talk with them and they had her hiding in the house and would not let him see her at first. Since her mom had died, she has been staying at random friends houses without my husband even knowing where she is. I know her grandparents love her, but I think this is a money issue too. They want my step-daughters monthly social security checks that she will be getting since her mom died and they want us to give them a few hundred dollars every month too. I also think that my step-kids mom had life insurance with them as the beneficiary and they are trying to hide that fact from us. Well, I just found out today that at the funeral home for visitation and at the funeral, the kids step-dad and some of his family were going around telling people that my husband was worthless. That he was a dead beat dad. That he never paid child support and had not seen his kids in 5 months. This upsets me! My husband paid child support every month, even if we did not have the money and it meant that the other 2 kids we have would have to do without. There have been times that we could not afford groceries and we still paid the support. Her and her husband made good money (well, he did...she made ok). They really had no need for the support, but it was my husbands duty to pay it. My husband called the kids at least 2 times and week and tried to see them as much as he could. they were just over for Christmas. I do not understand why people have to be so cruel and such liars! And I would not be surprised if the grandparents were also in it (the dead beat discussion). I am so afraid they are going to poison my step-daughters mind against us. Anyways, thanks for listening....and please if you have any advice send it my way.
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