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my daughter told me today that my neice got a spanking for bending right when she was moving wood from her mom, at their grandparetns house. I thought ok thats weird..but tonight when I talked to them and mentioned that my hubby hurt his back at work(not from lifting I might add) They took the opprotunity to say see "LuLu" what happens if u lift wrong, and it jarred my memory, I said well natural consequences if she does it and hurts herself after she has been shown and warned then its her fault. Thye said well its our job to teach them...wtf does that mean, spank ur child for not bending right that makes no sense to me. I know they don't abuse my niece but that is weird.
any ideas
Morgaine
any ideas
Morgaine
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not to say that i never spanked mine...grin... yes i did a few times when they were growing up...but quickly learned after a couple of times that it was a pointless excersise... so after a couple of times...i went the route of time outs and loss of privalges and talking to them... rather bore them to death...grin..
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heather
I don't believe in spanking either. I only spanked my son when he was real small twice.
Once he defied me and went in the street and the other was he tried to light the stove.
But like Heather says it does not really work. And it hurt me more than him.
I think a 10yr old girl should not be lifting wood that is way too heavy for her.
But if they have no one to help I guess that's why they are doing it.
But they should just show her
and keep reminding her.
Yes talk to her.
I can't see hitting a child of any age.
Just my opinion and don't want to start a big hoopla over this.
hear of any aboue and my sisilaw works for CPS. She would never purposely hurt "LuLu" and it could have been blown out
of proportion by my kid and niece. So I amgoing to hear all sides and keep my ears and eyes open. And also let my niece know she can tell me anything, even tho she already does LOL.
I have had so many talks with her, about things she didn't feel comfortable discussing with anyone else. We both started our monthlies at age 9 and needed some one who did. Boys, her mom is kind of ur a litle girl u don't need to think about boys just school and Jesus.
Which should would have had she didn't have those hormones runnig thru her;)
So my niece and I are very close.She loves her mom, very much and her dad.
But we click, and I think thats the way some people are. I feel better now.
I thank you all for your worries and support. I will keep you posted what I find out.By the way my nephew doesn't live with "LuLu" and her mom so his totaly
unbiased ;) and he loves "LuLu" and my daughter very much.
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Morgaine
The one thing that you've said that really strikes me is that your sister works for CPS. I wonder if she would be as understanding of a partent or foster parent who spanked a child, regardless of the reason why.
Children are people too and pain inflicted upon them, even if meant as a way of teaching, is still pain. A parents job is to figure out how to teach without needing to apply pain.
That's what I think anyway, but I don't have kids of my own so I may be speaking out of turn.