Multiple Sclerosis (MS) Support Group
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my brother was diagnosed three years ago with transverse mylitis. After his second episode of symptoms he was told it was ms. He went from a wheel chair to a walker to a cane. He was very determined to get better. The last 4 weeks have been very tough. His determination seems to be gone. He has stopped working out. He is whenever he is at work. After doing much research I went to him to discuss depression. After much persuation he finally called the dr. and got a perscription for an anti depressent which he does not want to take. His wife has gotten to the point wher she is not very supportive. Also through his depression he has, unadmittedly" stopped working out. As a result his legs have weakend and he has fallen several times. do you have any advice on how to deal with this situation
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I miss traveling with my husband. Has anyone found a specific site regarding cruising for widow/widowers or any sightseeing trips. Not interested in being with couples and kids,,,I realize a cruise ship will have a portion size of families and couples, but perhaps they also put together a part of the cruise ship for groups of widows/widowers????
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A friend sent this to me..As far as I can see, grief will never truly end.It may become softer overtime, more gentleand some days will feel sharp.But grief will last as long as Love does - ForeverIt's simply the way the absence of your loved onemanifests in your heart. A deep longing accompaniedby the deepest Love some days. The heavy fog mayreturn and the next day, it may recede.Once again, it's...
Depression can be both a cause and a symptom of MS, so treating it is important in getting your brother his quality of life back. You can't do it for him, but neither can family members withdraw support out of anger or frustration. It only makes you feel more alone and reinforces the "I'm worthless" crazy talk that is so common in depression.
Look for the positive. Did your brother do a little more activity on one day, even if he didn't work out? Note that. When he falls, is he able to get himself back up? That's key, as falls are common. Did he join the rest of his family for dinner when all he wanted to do was crawl under a rock and be left alone? Let him know you're glad to see him. Meet him where he is right now, and give the antidepressant time to work -- it can take up to 6 weeks before you see marked improvements.
Hang in there!
-Karen