Im so lost and dont know where to turn,"Please I Need help" I dont know if my Husband has a Multiple Personality or it is just plain Verbal and Mental abuse that he is doing to me. I will try to make this short and as Pleasant as Possible. When I first got with my Husband He was a womans dream come true as for being there for you, loving you and doing all the right things as a husband and lover and was just to Perfect. Well anyhow we got married July,17,2006 and I believe Sept,2006 is when things started to get a little weird for me and confusing and this has been and on and off thing for him for the past 8 mths with me. He does not have different names when he is like this just acts like 2 different people. One day he would be very loving,attentive and crazy about me like it was the first day we got together, my mother could not believe what I was telling her either because at work he would hide all of this and be his old sweet normal self. I have alot of bad days with him through the week and very few good one anymore but anyhow when out of the blue he started to pick on me on what ever I would say make rude comments about my family and even Mock me alot,evertime I would try to have a a normal conversation he would make it into an argument very quickly and would go from a very sweet man into someone I could not stand. these days that he would be like this he even started saying are questioning my love for him all the time and he would say one day I will believe you. He told me in the begining once we would get married he would feel very secured with us and everything will be great and he was very excited about the life we were going to have together and now he is of and on again about my love for him. Ihave never gave him any reason to doubt me. When I go to visit my family he thinks iam sneaking off to see my ex-husband which has been over a long long time ago. He has basically has been treating me like crap and Iam his possesion and his child and treats me like his is my father and when I have a conversation he never lets me finish and he acts like what Iam saying is stup and Ia inmature and after 3 days of that he goes back to Im sorry I love you and dont want to loose you and starts feeling very ensecure and eventually goes back to his old self for a few days and then the cycle keeps going over and over again like a broken record. Sometimes he scares me, No he has never layed a finger on me but the way he has been ascting back and forth makes me want to get out of this relationship before I end up hating him. He has gone as far as saying if you dont like it you can move out, and believe it or not later I will go over the conversation with him when he is feeling better and denys all those bad things he said to me and acts like I made all that up. YOu see im an epileptic and now my Anxiety attack are coming back and coming back even stronger. I have had several bad Marriages and Iam getting to old to keep going through this, my other ex-husbands were Alcoholics and my husband is not and for sure not taking drugs because he works for the Government and I use to work there also. this has taken alot out of me and now when he gets like this I get very mentally tired and want to sleep all day if I can, and my meds take alot out of me already. Me and my Mom thinks my Husband has some kind of mental problem going on because he changes so quickly with these episodes. He has been trying to be very Controlling and does have all the signs of an verbally and mentally abusive husband put he also could have a chemical inbalance as well and I would like to give him the benefit of the doubt, because I feel everyone at least deserves that. Please Iam going nutts here and iam afraid my Marriage with him is gkoing to fail. When he turn into the crazy talking husband that I dont know It scares me to death. there is a couple of other things I did not mention. see my sister lives in a very small Nudist trailer park with few trailers because he lives there #1 and his parents own it, I know my husband does not like me going over there, but anyhow she needed a favor from me to pick her up and take her down town to take care some personal buisness that had to be done. I told my Husband and asked him if It was ok and that I would be in and out really quick or if he did not want that, that I would meet her outside of the place and pick her up and he said those people are trash and so was my sister and he said who ever goes over there is a iece of trash and he said if I did I was a piece of trash to and he said If I did go over there that I might as well pack my stuff and move out. So I decided to try and compromise with him and see what he would say about that so, My Mother could not do it because she was working and she said she would ask her boyfriend to pick my sister up and take her to her house and i would pick her up from there and drop her back off att my Mothers but that to was not good enough. My husband never actedlike this before and totally shocked me. Actually me and my mother figured it out it was not a problem to pick her up it was just he was trying to keep me away from family and threatening was his way of doing it and now he talks trash about my family to my face and starts talking to me like I was crap and I did not have a mind of my own. Anyhow I dont know if he has different personaliitys or if is is an Abusser. Iam at the end of the rope, he is like hot and cold water, when he does get like this and he comes out of it he takes me out and buys me things to try to make up for it. this whole Situation is getting worse and worse by the mth. I can not get him anyhelp and he knows Ihave been looking on the internet for help on verbally and mental abuse, He denys all of his actions. Iam near the end and thinking very strongly on a legal seperation untill we get to the bootom of this before I end up hating him forever. Sorry for a long e-mail, Iam Desperate for advice.
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