No, we do not think you are overreacting at all. In therapy, we are working more on the parenting of our littles.
Currently we have system set up where a protector alter jumps in and removes the child from the situation immediately which is fine, but we are working on the 2nd half-which is getting the child to a nurturing alter for parenting/calming etc...
We hope soon to be at the point you are at.
We also are very perplexed by the post in the littles room...not only why someone would speak to a child that way, but even on the most basic level, why would one human to another human, Especially here.

to me my children all the littles and middles are my children regardless of someones thinking

To me they are my children, however I also try to reassure them that they are living inside a Big persons body so they don't have to be afraid any longer, that any of us bigs will do what we can to protect our littles.

Some of my littles call me Mom while some of the older ones prefer to call me Sis instead.

Jaye

I treat ALL children (both outside kids and other's inside children) with love and respect - and ask people treat my littles that same way. To hurt, intimidate, frighten or dismiss a child - that starts a lifetime of problems for that child. When we were raising our grandsons, Cam (my husband) and I made sure they were safe, loved, heard, believed, and we valued their opinions and thoughts. The boys are back with their mother and we haven't seen them for two years but we've talked to the older (he's 5 now) and he remembers so many things from the time we spent together.

Treating our inside littles with love and respect is mandatory in my book because they have gone through terrible experiences and they need that extra love and care in their lives.

I am not co-conscious with my alters, I do hear them talking sometimes, and I feel when they are close. Because I do not feel I can parent them like this I have asked some of the protectors (who no longer harm the body) to take care of the children - give the littles the parents they wanted to have. So far five have been parenting inside and the littles really love them.

I do not think you are over-reacting! I think you are doing what you feel you need to do for your littles and I believe your littles will be better off for it! Making that decision is awesome! It's just as responsible as being a parent of outside children. They are in two different places but they both need the same things.

Safe hugs - Dawn

Dawn,
We really liked what you said about the kids being in two different places but needing the same things.

Thanks :-)

When we went to a treatment place in 1995, I was able to finally deal with other people's littles. Seeing such innocence in those eyes, it's still one of those things that makes me sad. I won't get on a soapbox, but I just can not understand how anyone could hurt a child.

After seeing littles in another multiple and going home to my kids, I knew there was absolutely no difference - the children needed to be loved and nurtured regardless of where they were and what their circumstances. Sometimes it was more difficult with little because they would show up at times that may not have been ideal, whereas I could control where my outside children could be.

Sorry to go off like that, rambling... we love children - we'd have had 30 or 40 if we could, and we wanted to adopt after marrying Cameron, but things didn't come together for that to happen. I will always be an advocate for children - inside and out.

Really, I am stopping now :-)
Dawn

Child have allways been a weakness of mine. there so small and innocent how anyone could hurt one verbally or otherwise is beyond me. as far as I am concerned my alters are there own people. they can have a life and do what they want as long as its not illegal or harmful.
My littles are my children

Thanks for all the responses. And Dawn you were not rambling. Your input was very insightful. It is just hard to get non-multiples to understand that our littles ARE children, not adults acting like children. We hope that people can come to understand this and perhaps be kinder to littles on this site and others. Thanks again.