try journaling or maybe writing short stories she can get her feelings out in a positive way.

nice idea. a sexual novel. :) sounds good. or maybe drawing those fantasies too..
learning to relate to people properly.. i dont know if those alters can. i wouldn't know how to teach my sensual alter that. i think she needs to learn that on her own maybe? but it's extra hard because she would have to bond in a good way, with the one you chose as a partner instead of someone she chooses. in any case, i recognize it all too well.

I used to draw pictures of what happened to me when I was little. I got in so much trouble for that. I'm afraid of having to explain things if the pictures or words get found. Could I lose my therapist? He's a really good person, and seems to be making progress. I know the clinical term for this is transference. Does that mean I have to stop seeing him?

I like the idea of bonding in a healthy way with my partner. Something tells me that is down the road of healing a bit farther than where I am at the moment.

yeah i think so because anything i try to teach the alters takes years..
can you discuss this with your therapist? maybe you need his approval to do it. so you know he's not going to go away.
maybe he's got even better tips. cause drawing or writing down sex is triggering. i tried to write a sex novel once too. never finished it. it was supposed to be autobiography but i forgot everything so i quit writing :( in the freaking middle of a sentence... shame because it was good writing.

I'm afraid to do the writing or drawing because of the triggers, and the shame. Eventually I am hopeful to be able to discuss with therapist.

I think fantasizing about a therapist happens to many people in therapy and a experienced therapist would not tell you to stop seeing him. It's a good opportunity for him to discuss this with you if he recognizes your attraction. I think it can be a learning experience. But important that he does not cross that line as that would be unethical and damaging.