thank you for your response to my post.i have never thought badly about MPD. i have just done my best to understand it and support my friend.she is in therapy and has been for as long as i have known her.her therapist has stated that she is the worste case he has ever had to deal with in his 30years of practising.not that i have heard this directly from him, but rather my friend who is seeing him.i believe my friend is making progress but it is a slow process.i feel very close to some of her alters, and to be honest, i will miss them if they are one day not there.but i believe, right or wrong, that these alters are all part of the one person, just that they have different roles...i miss my friends main alter, that is the person i met in the first place as she has been gone for many years, but equally i love the others also.if i can ask you, does my friend getting well, becoming one, mean she has to go through all she managed to detatch from as a small child?her story is so very painful and i dont want her to have to experience all those horrors again.BUt she is so determined to get better, and although i am so proud of her for this, i worry about how her childhood experiences will affect her.i know this is why she has alters, but i am still worried for her.
i am also a survivor of abuse, however i used self medicating to avoid dealing with my feelings for a long time. i am clean and sober now but i struggle some days with my own issues from my childhood. i can only compare myself with her and her story is so much more painful than my own, this is why i ask. thanks for listening.
anne

i am not sure if i am willing to accept what you have shared.i also dont believe this is something that can be healed in 5 or 6 sessions of great therapy. if this were the case, then my own recovery from drug and alcohole abuse, would in comparison be simple.however i am not foolish enuough to believe i just have to remain drug free to have recovery.my addictive personality is a symtom of my more difficult issues from childhood, which i am in therapy for.i have spent most of my life using drugs to escape feelings that were to painful to deal with and i learned these copeing skills from my parents.having used this as a way to cope with all my day to day life living, i have known little else.so i now try to relearn how to function in a more normal and less destructive way.you cannot change lifelong copeing mechanisms is just a few therapy sessions.im sorry jerry but i have to agree to disagree with you.
take care
anne

I think that it is awesome you are trying to help and understand what your friend is going through. I wish we had more friends like you. Please feel free to ask any questions you may have. You are welcome to add me to your friend list if you would like. Thank you for being such a kind and caring friend.

Karin/Crew

Anne, you are annonymous on here -- none of us know who you "really" are - that is the beauty and safety of having these communities...you are in control of how much you reveal your true identity... but be careful if you choose to reveal any of it, and very careful whom you choose to reveal it to, if you do. Make SURE you know who they are and what they are like, by getting to know them for a while before you give any personal info.

That being said, your friend is also relatively safe by you gathering info for her here as well.

Anne you don't say that you are a multiple. I can understand your friend wanting to be private. I am the friend of a multiple and some of her alters have been integrated. She has been to about 5 different doctors. The last one really made a mess of things. I try to treat each alter as a separate person and all of them a one. Sometimes it all gets so confusing. It is perfectly ok for you to come here for help and support. I only have one person that I can talk to about my friend. She is also their friend. If you want to talk more just let me know. I can understand what you are going through!!