What has helped me is, to think of this stuff kinda like childbirth....(did you ever take Lamaze classes, if you have children?)...they teach you to breathe deep and slow (funny thing, I just made a comment on slow breathing in the BP community!! lol!) and allow the contraction to happen...flow with it, rather than tense up and fight it. My memories came piece by piece too, and one of my therapists told me that these things surface, as we are ready to deal with them. That seems to be true for me...and also, I've learned the hard way, why it's very, very important to be able to trust the therapist you're working with, who will allow you to do your work at your own pace. I have a recent journal entry under "My Journal" called, "therapy advice" if you want to take a look at it, might help you feel more comfortable and secure in finding a good one you can feel safe with.

Another thing that I've found helpful, is to remind myself (and whoever is having this flashback) that even though you feel like you're still in that moment, it actually is a memory, and you are in a safe place now. Ironically, that well may be why you're having this flashback!!

This isn't a fall backwards. It's another step in your healing process. See what you can glean from it revealing itself to you. And if you're not in therapy right now, it's probably a good time to start looking for one again.

((( hugs )))

Starfish....how are you all? thanks for the advice I will be seeing my therapist in the morning! I want to catch up with you all okay....I want add you as a friend if you all don't mind.