I have 3 siblings. Two sisters and one brother. My sisters live out of state and my brother lives 5 minutes from me and Dad. Since Mom passed in Jan. 07 my brother and I have had to deal with the brunt of Dad's grieving, depression, etc. Although now he seems to be doing a lot better, but for most of the past 16mos. Dad was more short-tempered with me, less patient, and sometimes mean when he talked to me and says hurtful comments. I have had a hard time dealing with it and I have let a lot of things slide, because I knew that he was just angry that Mom was no longer here. However, I have started to snap back a couple of times when it has worn on me and he backs off a little bit. I don't understand why he treats me like that sometimes, especially since after Mom passed..I took my 2 yr old daughter and stayed with Dad for 5 weeks while my hubby took care of our 2 sons. Then we had Dad over for dinner ever night for almost a year before Dad felt he could start cooking a little more on his own. I have taken care of his bills and doctor appts, etc. All things that Mom used to do and yet he still would give me cutting comments and it sometimes made me feel completely consumed in grief and depression, because it made me miss Mom more. I know that my Dad loves me...and it is hard for him to be emotionally sensitive, but even though he may not say it all the time...he always showed it. But now he seems angry with me most days and I don't know why. It breaks my heart, because I would do anything in the whole for him. He doesn't do any of this to my other siblings..just to me. I was always the child that did everything with my folks and was always close to them. Has anyone else had this experience?
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